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shimec
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I will see everything on Friday. I really only hope that it will help me, even today I do feel pretty good actually.
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Nalo
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| Posted: Sat, 29th Jul 2017 23:01 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Sun, 30th Jul 2017 19:19 Post subject: |
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| shimec wrote: | | If anyone still cares about this, I will have my first talk with some professional next Friday. I hope I will do well. |
We do still care, good job, get well soon. And report how things go if you feel like it.
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| Posted: Sun, 30th Jul 2017 19:23 Post subject: |
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| shimec wrote: | | If anyone still cares about this, I will have my first talk with some professional next Friday. I hope I will do well. |
Well, instead of asking for advice and ignoring every single one like most other idiots do here, it's quite refreshing when someone actually listen to sound advice. Hopefully the treatments work wonders, do keep us updated.
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| Posted: Sun, 30th Jul 2017 19:28 Post subject: |
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Smart move 
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shimec
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| Posted: Sun, 30th Jul 2017 22:22 Post subject: |
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| Stormwolf wrote: | | shimec wrote: | | If anyone still cares about this, I will have my first talk with some professional next Friday. I hope I will do well. |
Well, instead of asking for advice and ignoring every single one like most other idiots do here, it's quite refreshing when someone actually listen to sound advice. Hopefully the treatments work wonders, do keep us updated. |
I will post an update. I really hope that it will help me, because I am suffering for real. Today is 3 full months. I do feel a bit sad, but not overwhelmed. Worst part is that we talked couple of days ago. She called me to meet with her for 5 minutes as she wanted to appologize. We ended sitting in my car for 4 full hours and talked. And in the end, when I drove her home she sent me a message saying that she doesn't regret that we were sitting for so long because every moment spent with me is not wasted.
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shimec
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shimec
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| Posted: Sun, 6th Aug 2017 18:19 Post subject: |
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So, as promised to some of you that still look at this thread - I was at a session on Friday and it was pretty much preliminary. We talked about a lot of things and I did feel better after that session. Doctor asked me if I think I should be put on antidepressive meds and I said that I hope not with which she agreed. Now she gave me a homework (I hate them) for next session to think about every single emotion that comes to my mind and from that list to bold the ones that I am feeling the most lately.
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| Posted: Sun, 6th Aug 2017 19:33 Post subject: |
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| shimec wrote: | | So, as promised to some of you that still look at this thread - I was at a session on Friday and it was pretty much preliminary. We talked about a lot of things and I did feel better after that session. Doctor asked me if I think I should be put on antidepressive meds and I said that I hope not with which she agreed. Now she gave me a homework (I hate them) for next session to think about every single emotion that comes to my mind and from that list to bold the ones that I am feeling the most lately. |
Good for not going on anti depressants. While they have their role, some people need them , i feel they are seriously over prescribed.
I have a friend on them and he's basically a dead man walking. Became one of the most boring people i know
Therapy takes time but totally worth it, from my own experience.
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TSR69
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| Posted: Sun, 6th Aug 2017 19:48 Post subject: |
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And then talkijg and talking, and then nothibg changess,?
Formerly known as iconized
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| Posted: Sun, 6th Aug 2017 19:58 Post subject: |
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talking is important, and things will change through talking. but it will take a lot of time.
and yes its good to decline meds, they should be the last way out
glad to hear you even felt better after the first preliminary talk
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| Posted: Sun, 6th Aug 2017 20:20 Post subject: |
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| TSR69 wrote: | | And then talkijg and talking, and then nothibg changess,? |
What?
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| Posted: Sun, 6th Aug 2017 20:22 Post subject: |
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Well done shimec, see, it's not so bad. I hope you are feeling better soon. Keep us updated.
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| Posted: Wed, 9th Aug 2017 04:28 Post subject: |
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In this country, talking isnt one of the strong things of people and friends in general, let alone a visit a professional. You should see how many people i meet and they are completely out of the loop of what normal is, people with tons of issues and noone seems to point out the most simple of facts for them....
Personally i would have liked to have my current self as a friend before, talking and sharing deeply would have helped me greatly in times i needed it. I learned a lot, the hard way, but im happy as hell now (minus the fact that i live in this fucking country xD)
But yea, talking to my friends, talking about myself, it brings so much to the table to think about and change perspective, things arent so complicated, but feelings are, we just gotta think a bit further about things and find that we are fucking drowning in a glass of water.
BE HAPPY DUDE, theres so much shit that comes further ahead, as in happy cool entertaining things, cooler people, new people, weird fucks online. Its all good. We just gotta remember that bad things happen too, but waaaaaaaaaay to many good things to experience apart from them.
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| Posted: Wed, 9th Aug 2017 04:55 Post subject: |
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^^Well WTF do you expect^^??
I have never understood why ANYONE posts PERSONAL stuff on ANY board??!!
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Nalo
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| Posted: Wed, 9th Aug 2017 09:28 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Wed, 9th Aug 2017 14:14 Post subject: |
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| scaramonga wrote: | ^^Well WTF do you expect^^??
I have never understood why ANYONE posts PERSONAL stuff on ANY board??!! |
Because sometimes what i said happens, you are surrounded by people you cant talk to or dont want to and you find that online you can and you get the perspective or tips you needed. Sometimes you're just stuck alone with a big problem you didnt have experience with.
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| Posted: Wed, 9th Aug 2017 14:19 Post subject: |
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Sometimes I really feel that the average modern woman of today absolutely cannot deal with the relatively newfound freedom since the suffrage rights and will destroy her life and the lives of those around her on a misguided path of self-realization, which usually is never reached.
There are women I know who are pragmatic, decent and understand reason and common sense.
But then there are also a shitload of the first group.
Ah well, maybe they need a few centuries of battling hormones/nature until they normalize.
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| Posted: Wed, 9th Aug 2017 15:44 Post subject: |
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| The_Zeel wrote: | Sometimes I really feel that the average modern woman of today absolutely cannot deal with the relatively newfound freedom since the suffrage rights and will destroy her life and the lives of those around her on a misguided path of self-realization, which usually is never reached.
There are women I know who are pragmatic, decent and understand reason and common sense.
But then there are also a shitload of the first group.
Ah well, maybe they need a few centuries of battling hormones/nature until they normalize. |
I don't think it's about not being able to deal with the freedom rather than society and the media specifically shoving a warped reality in their face.
When you see how pro-women the media is, it's no surprise really that they think they can do no wrong and end up shifting blame to everyone but themselves when they mess up. The reason they crash and burn, is because reality hits them square in the face: bosses don't accept that attitude, relationships often don't survive either and kids end up screwed up.
Personally, I'm glad to be single when every single one of my male friends is heavily tied down by a girlfriend that tells them what they can and can't do.
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| Posted: Wed, 16th Aug 2017 10:47 Post subject: |
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| red_avatar wrote: | | The_Zeel wrote: | Sometimes I really feel that the average modern woman of today absolutely cannot deal with the relatively newfound freedom since the suffrage rights and will destroy her life and the lives of those around her on a misguided path of self-realization, which usually is never reached.
There are women I know who are pragmatic, decent and understand reason and common sense.
But then there are also a shitload of the first group.
Ah well, maybe they need a few centuries of battling hormones/nature until they normalize. |
I don't think it's about not being able to deal with the freedom rather than society and the media specifically shoving a warped reality in their face.
When you see how pro-women the media is, it's no surprise really that they think they can do no wrong and end up shifting blame to everyone but themselves when they mess up. The reason they crash and burn, is because reality hits them square in the face: bosses don't accept that attitude, relationships often don't survive either and kids end up screwed up.
Personally, I'm glad to be single when every single one of my male friends is heavily tied down by a girlfriend that tells them what they can and can't do. |
You have seriously warped views on women.
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Morphineus
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| Posted: Wed, 16th Aug 2017 13:40 Post subject: |
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Been saying that for a while now, but just expect a: "No, you!" back. 
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| Posted: Fri, 18th Aug 2017 13:19 Post subject: |
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I'm on the other side. The "easier" side. I stopped loving my fiancee after 5 years and she just moved out. She loves me really, really much, she's amazing, such a good, beautiful, intelligent and cute person. Everybody said we looked so good together. On paper we should be together to the end of our lives... but live isn't "on paper". You just can't force your brain to "love someone". Nobody understands our brains, let alone ourselves. It's just so baffling to me and I feel so heartless, but there's no other way.
She's given you a huge favor by quitting early. I didn't have that courage and I made my fiancee suffer, because of my undecidedness. If you're going to invest feelings into someone make sure from the beginning that you're the most important person for her in the world. I "loved" my girlfriend, but I was never really ready to make huge sacrifices for her, or drop anything just to be with her. That's the kind of person you want to be with, otherwise you'll waste 5/10/15 years of your life, hurt even more and be old and alone.
I'm also going to therapy, because I feel like a psychopath for feeling relieved to have ended a 5 year old relationship with such an amazing person.
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TSR69
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| Posted: Fri, 18th Aug 2017 13:50 Post subject: |
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If you can't feel anything, don't bother to pay for therapy.
Just a waste of money.
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| Posted: Fri, 18th Aug 2017 13:56 Post subject: |
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I don't think that therapy is ever a waste of money. We've been to a couples therapy and the things we learned about ourselves, the perspective was just invaluable. It was the therapy that gave my girlfriend the strength to move out.
I just think that the price of not going to therapy is much, much higher than going. Just like with normal health: "I feel a slight pain in the stomach, but it's a waste of money to go and check it out".
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shimec
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| Posted: Mon, 18th Sep 2017 22:15 Post subject: |
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I am getting better actually. Therapy is on hold at the moment because of some scheduling problems with me and doctor, but I will get back to it soon. Since work begun I do have a lot less of free time so that keeps me going. Of course, there are hard moments, but they come and go.
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| Posted: Mon, 18th Sep 2017 22:42 Post subject: |
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actually that was completely what i expected. keep on the work with the doc and dont let those hard moments knock you down again (even if it might be hard)
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| Posted: Tue, 19th Sep 2017 00:09 Post subject: |
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nice of you for asking Janz, was recently thinking about shimec and this thread too. Good hearing things are getting better. Keep your chin up man.
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