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Jesus.. worst birthday present ever.
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jan 2015 23:52 Post subject: |
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some people are way too nice
one thing cheating outside of my home, another is taking a fucking shower in a place where i live, sleep, shit and fuck? fuck that, their bodies would be liquefied
and no there is no excuse, bitch want to fuck someone else when i'm not home, working hard, earning, she ded
instead of making dinner, suck my cock when i'm back and give me foot massage
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ClaudeFTW
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jan 2015 23:57 Post subject: |
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Again, thanks for the kind words, you guys are awesome, as always. Makes me feel a bit better about how I handled this, even though as I said, I'm pretty numb (as in, I should be affected more). I will probably follow the advice about renting the oher room, get some profit out of this and above all else, not be alone. I guess I'm a decent person, you guys keep telling me I'm a saint for not decking any one of them. In contrast to my friends which were more along the lines "so did you make a knot out of him or her?" Heh, all's gonna be well.
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 00:39 Post subject: |
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I'm still in the processs. First two nights were horrible. I almost had a heart attack. Chest was beating like a bitch. Talked to her about just to ease my mind but it didn't really help. Right now we're in a long distance thing as she went elsewhere. Went to see her on Xmas and I felt distance. From myself towards her. Xmas came and went. I went back home and spent new years by myself. Got a phone call shortly after midnight. It all seems peachy and fine. Today I got the whole feeling that I should end everything and just move on with my life. Sell the apartment, pay off the debt and live with my parents for a while until I get my life back together.
But that's just right now. My situation isn't as bad as yours. To me it feels worse, but at the same time I know that it isn't. To me a relationship is about love and well longing for the person who goes away for a while. And I had that first few weeks she was away. And after I discovered some things it got less and less. To the point where I don't know if I love the person I'm with.
Obviously I still do. Obviously I don't want to let her go. Obviously. But it's one of those feelings that are becoming less and less the longer we are apart.
Kudos to you to taking it seriously and proper. Hump is always there for friends. I remember when one of my older gfs jerked off her xbf in front of me after drinking too much. Hump helped. A lot. 
But for me I think it's more of a thing that I think is actually wrong with me. Lol. Something I gotta figure out and fix. Cause when I was with her even through the distance I was happy. But now I'm not. But these feels of just ending it and that there's nothing there anymore are coming in waves and stronger. I was ok yesterday lol.
Hump cares. Should've told us sooner. We're all emo here and know how to handle situations even when it feels like you're helpless. We will help.
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ClaudeFTW
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 07:55 Post subject: |
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Damn Waldo, I'm so sorry. I say you shouldn't give up. Not yet, anyway, maybe it's just some holiday bs and you will be fine. Although if you feel like this would be necessary, do it. There is no need to drag on with something that's clearly not working. I'd rather hurt for a little while than drag on with something such as what you're describing. One of the reasons I don't want to get back with her. Sure, I was with her since 2011 and she made me happy, and was there all the time, through thick and thin, but the betrayal I felt when I saw that guy, along with the heartache and tears only I know I shed... no way she's crawling back.
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Danyutz
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 07:59 Post subject: |
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I'm a quite tolerable person, but for me, cheating is the ultimate form of betrayal, I know it, my wife knows it.
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 08:02 Post subject: |
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Common element in all the humper's problems.
Women.
JK, usually men get hit by a moment of lack of: self-respect, insight, decision and self-awareness. Thats where all the drama and pain comes in. Claude has those covered.
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 09:35 Post subject: |
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im sorry to say this, and im not taking her side or anything. but claude man, i dont think you were fuckin her good. something was lacking there if she had to seek another cock.
she wanted the best of both worlds: a cozy house with moneys by claude and a good fuck by thaqt midget. it backfired.
and 1.60 m? fuck. women are stupid. they can be talked into anything.
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 10:08 Post subject: |
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everyone should experience this.
women are no better than men. women are bitches and men are assholes. in general. I'd like to think that there are exceptions, but maybe I'm just naive.
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 11:20 Post subject: |
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| termcan wrote: | everyone should experience this.
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nah,not really,people can spend a whole lifetime just fine without the feeling of getting their heart extracted with a rusty spoon 
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 12:16 Post subject: |
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What ever happened to communications in relationships...... Sex life problems? Talk, not cheat. Shes a bitch. A huge fucking whore. Period. Even at 17 my ex talked to me about sex problems.... An adult couldnt? No. Bitch.
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HIz
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MAD_MAX333
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 14:46 Post subject: |
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You have alot more self control than many people would have at this situation... bravo.... gets easier with time I promise....
waldo... ex gf jerked off who?? in front of who? WTFFF
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 16:01 Post subject: |
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yah that was yurs ago \o/
i'm all good for it now.
@ClaudeFTW yop. duuno yet though. it could just be me with how i handle distance. if im apart from something for too long i just dont care. and i automatically assume people are like me and they stop caring as well.
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 16:26 Post subject: |
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claude would u be willing to share with us the last few months of what was happening in your sexlife with her? Come home late at night tired, she ask u to have some fun but u decline for example, situations like that ? Anything u would do different in future ?
We might all be able to learn something from these hard times
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 16:51 Post subject: |
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Objectivity and awareness are two of the most important aspect a man should keep during a relationship
I'm always in detective mode with women, most times I call'em out on their BS and other times I give'em a taste of their own medicine and more.
To me infidelity is a total deal breaker, anyone who wants to get back with someone who cheated is a spineless bastard. And I applaud your approach, don't blame the guy, blame the bitch that has an easy time toying with men's trust. I find comfort in the thought that time won't be kind to them, and they'll end up as worthless wrinkly hags with no man there for them because they wasted their youth not building a solid foundation for a proper relationship.
I've been "the other guy" before. Sometimes without even knowing there was a boyfriend. This is how good they are at deception, they compartmentalize everything. Put every guy in a box and play a different tune to each. Usually some poor schmuck is at the back of the line as a backburner project for financial interests. You deserve much better, settling for less would be your own demise.
One girl once plotted to date others while I was away but I kept a watch on her and did some damage she won't forget. Another cheated with her ex and flat out lied and said she he raped her while drunk. Once these things happen I just completely lose interest and I see them as worthless cumdumpsters that don't deserve even the hint of emotional investment. One should learn how to pull away and withdraw all his cares.
A wise man once said: Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks.
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 17:05 Post subject: |
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there's really nothing you can learn from that.
people are different. people find other things attractive and have needs for other things.
i don't need to have sex every day or jerk off every day, some people in relationships do, but when their SO doesn't feel the need for that that SO will eventually stray away because s/he feels used and abused. They will find someone who will give them sex once in a blue moon. And then that person will stray away because they like sex soooo much that they need a constant. People are fucked up, bro
some couples like being apart due to work or other things and come home to each other and full of love. Some people just want security in life and find it in love.
some peoples stray apart simply because they have found other things in life. Some people like being alone.
people evolve constantly. it's never someone's fault. it's never "i should've seen the signs". Because even if you notice them it's already too late. Signs are for after bullshit happened. Not before or during. Then you make up some bullshit excuse as to what the signs were and call her all the bad things you remember reading in a bathroom stall of some nasty bar.
It doesn't work like that. You always find out after/during. You will never find out before anything happens. It's hard to figure that out. And if there's no communication at all then it all comes crashing down in the end regardless. (never be afraid to talk to your partner. Never. if you think she's cheating, you ask her. Don't accuse her. You ask her). I mean in some cases it's obvious... also if you can't notice that your Significant Other has changed dramatically then i got news for you 
By change i mean a small distance. A kiss that feels less soft. She looks away when you look at her for too long and doesn't smile like she used to. she thinks you're judging her. When she screams your name in bed and to you it sounds different. But those things are always too late. I honestly can't tell you for how to guage the before part. Cause I look at two things in a relationship. Love and Sex. Sex is harder to guage than love in a cheating SO. If they fall out of love, you'll know in an instant.
thats all i can write on this topic. i got palpitations going.
 Spoiler: | is why waldo knows soooo much about womens. he had all kinds, crazy, slutty, fucked up, red head, ones who used him for sex and nothing else, ones who didn't want sex, ones who loved the public scene, ones who liked a good book. but that was all years ago. More things popped up on the social scene and sadly i've been in love for half of that. It's gonna suck for me to get back in the saddle again. I'll know on the weekend. Her bday is friday, and lets see if she comes. \o/ |
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 17:11 Post subject: |
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| FireMaster wrote: | Objectivity and awareness are two of the most important aspect a man should keep during a relationship
I'm always in detective mode with women, most times I call'em out on their BS and other times I give'em a taste of their own medicine and more.
To me infidelity is a total deal breaker, anyone who wants to get back with someone who cheated is a spineless bastard. And I applaud your approach, don't blame the guy, blame the bitch that has an easy time toying with men's trust. I find comfort in the thought that time won't be kind to them, and they'll end up as worthless wrinkly hags with no man there for them because they wasted their youth not building a solid foundation for a proper relationship.
I've been "the other guy" before. Sometimes without even knowing there was a boyfriend. This is how good they are at deception, they compartmentalize everything. Put every guy in a box and play a different tune to each. Usually some poor schmuck is at the back of the line as a backburner project for financial interests. You deserve much better, settling for less would be your own demise.
One girl once plotted to date others while I was away but I kept a watch on her and did some damage she won't forget. Another cheated with her ex and flat out lied and said she he raped her while drunk. Once these things happen I just completely lose interest and I see them as worthless cumdumpsters that don't deserve even the hint of emotional investment. One should learn how to pull away and withdraw all his cares.
A wise man once said: Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks. |
underlined, LOL WHAT!? NO NO NO NO. you've been hurt too much my friend. It's time to let go off the past and embrace the future. Much more pussy can fit on a bus if you don't bring your luggage.
Bolded, infidelity i'd personally be ok with. It's a lot easier for me to stomach than losing someone you love. you can fix infidelity. you can't fix lack of love.
italics, guys do the same thing. Both parties are fucked up in this regard.
the rest, stop dating bitches.
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 17:12 Post subject: |
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You cannot fix infidelity. Once a cheat, always a cheat. Who would WANT to fix that?
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 17:35 Post subject: |
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| WaldoJ wrote: | i'm more from the school of thought where you can talk it out and that i'm pretty much fucked from previous lives  |
Well I'm not. If someone cheats, they're gone. For whatever reason, they're gone. If they're so fucking cowardly to go behind your back, they're not worth fighting for and I absolutely *refuse* to fight for someone that cheats. Ever. It's my #1 rule and I've never broken it and I expect others to feel the same, otherwise it's the boot and good riddance. No talking, no communication, no stressing, no tears, no pleading, no trial separation. Gone. Out the fucking door, don't ever come back.
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 17:47 Post subject: |
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I'm pretty radical on that part as well. If one can't communicate about problems and acts with cheating... nope no sympathy for that.
Even at 16 one should be mature enough to say things aren't really working anymore.
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 20:37 Post subject: |
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Hey Claude,
Just wanted to stop by and say I'm sorry, and you handled everything perfectly. Were it me in your place I would be sitting in front of a grand jury right now for breaking that fucker's faceplate in three different places.
Don't get back together with her, but don't remain bitter about what happened. Don't let it color your future relationships, but learn to be cautious with women. They can be quite callous, as you found out the hard way 
I'm on WoT US server, but let me know if you want to platoon there sometime! I'm glad you found a new friend group to hang out with, sounds like you're recovering. In a few months this will all be in the distant past, and you'll be able to smile easy again!
-t
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 21:01 Post subject: |
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I'm a herp derp
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Tue, 6th Jan 2015 21:46 Post subject: |
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The thing is it's not a big issue in a way and I am making a big issue out of it.
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