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SycoShaman
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Ok. I have an ex wife right? some of u guys know the story and shit. Anyway, im chillin today, relaxing...and I get a phone call from a restricted number. I pick it up and its like this girly girly sounding girl on the phone asking to speak to me. But I can barely understand her. So i hang up, she calls back, i hang up again etc this went on for like 15 minutes....So i finally pick up the phone (my cell) and tell her to call my house cuz I cant make out what she's saying.
Anyway, i find out this girl's name and everything, I dont know her but she says she's friend's with my ex. Supposedly something really big happened in her family and she needs a place to go. Her friend was sketchy with the details and shit. So i started flipping cuz i never wanted to hear from this bitch again right. Anyway, i got real mad and hung up...her friend calls back. All the while she says my ex is in the bathroom crying her eyes out cuz she wants to come back and live with me and shit again, but she's tom embarrassed to tell me or something like that, the phone connection was shit.
Finally this girl admitted to me she doesnt know my ex very well and basically wanted her somewhere besides her house. So, against all judgement, I said bring her here. So she said she would and she'd get my ex to call me when she coax's her outta the washroom.
Well, this all ended, like the last time i spoke with her was at 8pm EST, its now 10pm EST and Im fuckin stressed out to the max cuz I dont know whats going on and there is absolutely no way i can find out.....so I thought I'd get ur guys opinions as my friends basically bitched me out for even talking to her.
She playing games, or is she serious? What do u guys think? like it sounds so highschoolish and hard to believe but at the sametime I know my ex really well and she does this type of shit....I have no fuckin idea what to do....and Im on my 3rd pack of smokes today, smoke 1 back before the call, smoked another one while talking to the chick and started smoking the 3rd pack like an hour ago 
And if ur not gunna answer seriously, dont bother please
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MAD_MAX333
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 04:15 Post subject: |
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the way your smoking you'll be dead before she gets there... so no worrys... and that's being serious...
smart thing to do is to offer to pick her up... get her to a coffee shop, hopefully near her friends or family's house... and talk to her and see if her story is legit.. if it is, then i guess u could let her stay with you for a little while... if not leave her there and she is close to family so she can just go there.
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 04:20 Post subject: |
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| MAD_MAX333 wrote: | the way your smoking you'll be dead before she gets there... so no worrys... and that's being serious...
smart thing to do is to offer to pick her up... get her to a coffee shop, hopefully near her friends or family's house... and talk to her and see if her story is legit.. if it is, then i guess u could let her stay with you for a little while... if not leave her there and she is close to family so she can just go there. |
NONONO, I cant get ahold of her man, at all....her friend called from a restricted number...thats what im saying...I wanna know what the fuck is going on and im stressing out so bad cuz I dont know whats going on. If i knew, i could decide what i should do, but I dont know what the fuck happened and suffice to say, this girl's past is a violent one, she puts herself in stupid situations and has been victimized in many many ways. Thats why i am fuckin freaking, even tho I have alot of hate built up towards her....u know how it is when u love someone, u dont want them to get hurt...atleast not physically....like Im totally stuck and I have to wait around and hope I get some kinda info....and I dont even know who this friend of her's is...man....she's somewhere in North York, thats all I know...and she shouldnt be in North York dude, she should be in barrie with her mom and shit....its tripping me out so bad.....and she should have been here by now if she's coming...like man...imagine if ur girl was in trouble, ex or not, a girl that u loved with all ur heart....u'd be strappin ur gat on, gettin in ur car and deal with it
and I dont drive man - i use the TTC......  NOTE: U guys should have an exploding head icon....
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MAD_MAX333
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 04:28 Post subject: |
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call the bell centre and explain the situation... situations like this they call the police aswell and give ou the number... only call if you know this could be seriouse... but just wait... give it a little time... alot of things could have slowed her down to get there... its a not a exact business....
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 04:35 Post subject: |
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| MAD_MAX333 wrote: | | call the bell centre and explain the situation... situations like this they call the police aswell and give ou the number... only call if you know this could be seriouse... but just wait... give it a little time... alot of things could have slowed her down to get there... its a not a exact business.... |
But thats the thing man, I dunno if she's fuckin coming - i thought atleast her friend would call back and let me know
And I dont know if something serious HAS happened or will happen...Like this girl can be really really dumb and make really bad choices that mite end up leaving her in a ditch
Well, here's another fuckin sleepless nite....if this turns out to be a joke or something, is there any legal things I can do to get her back - like punitive damages and shit? |
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 04:40 Post subject: |
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| AnimalMother wrote: | Oh so it's this crappy male pride thing again...
I personally think you were foolish to allow her to stay with you again, makes you seem like a pushover, especially with all the shit you've been callin her. Obviously her plans didn't work out, maybe her other lover left her, so now she needs a shoulder to cry on and a place to stay. You were the most convenient.
I don't know what you're so worried about, what you think she got capped on the way to your house or something? 
She's probably got over whatever happend and decided not to bother coming over. |
See, thats what Im also thinking and thats what my closest buddies have been telling me...but there's this part of me man...like i cant fully describe what happened well enough, but it sounds very serious...but like u said, she could be playing me....but if she is in trouble I gotta help her....fuck....talk about being confused...
And read the other posts, im not worried she got shot but decided to do any sort of a number of things....last time really bad shit happened, she O'D for example...and if it wasnt for my great timing in getting home from work, she'd be dead right now. Also, when i first met her, she was living with this abusive guy, not dating or sleeping with him, just a roomate but he was abusive none the less...and i saved her from him...like ive done so much for this girl...i just cant let it go if I dont know what the deal is man...I dunno how better else to explain it, as long as I know she isnt dead or on the street, id be cool...i may dislike her a ton, but fuck, i really dont want to see her hurt at all...she's been through to much...rape, abuse by numerous ppl...I dunno.... 
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MAD_MAX333
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 04:40 Post subject: |
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nope you'll waste your time trying to prove it... and nothing will even make it to the court
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 05:22 Post subject: |
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So what, you were in a relationship with her once and now you have to fucking babysit her ass to make sure she doesn't get herself killed?
Dude, sounds to me like this girl is nothing but trouble, and unless you cut yourself off from her they'll always be something happening that she wants you to deal with.
My advice: Get clear fast.
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 05:26 Post subject: |
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| AnimalMother wrote: | So what, you were in a relationship with her once and now you have to fucking babysit her ass to make sure she doesn't get herself killed?
Dude, sounds to me like this girl is nothing but trouble, and unless you cut yourself off from her they'll always be something happening that she wants you to deal with.
My advice: Get clear fast. |
U sure ur name isnt Ryan and ur not Brazilian?...thats EXACTLY what my best friend told me...thats what everyone has said...but there's something...i dunno, holding me back...its just i cant stand the thought of her being hurt, it breaks my heart man....and I dont want her to do anything stupid...but then again, I could be freakin out for no reason at all and she could be laughing her ass off....but thats what kills me, the uncertainty
atleast if i knew it was a joke, i could be mad, say fuck her, and thats it. But I dont know what the deal is and thats whats killing me...and its been 3 1/2 hours since i last talked to her friend or whoever that girl was.... |
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MAD_MAX333
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 05:32 Post subject: |
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AM have you been married??? if not then you wouldn't know the bond between them.. much easier for a teen to say oh let her go and shit like that.. much harder when you are older and have been in a marriage or relationship with a person for a long time... you don't just erase them from memory.
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 05:35 Post subject: |
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exactly max....too much history and love and good times...and the feeling of going to bed with her and waking up beside her....best "drug" of all man. Best feeling in the world knowing u have a woman laying beside u that loves, really loves u with all her heart....I'd trade everything to have that again.....
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MAD_MAX333
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 05:46 Post subject: |
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english kids... tsk tsk tsk
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 05:55 Post subject: |
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*sigh* Max, u know of any good sleeping pills they have at an all nite shoppers drug mart? like ones that work, the pills i mean
EDIT: I've taken 4 Oxyapams and those are supposed to knock u out cold, only one is supposed to knock u out. But Im fuckin WIDE awake....
they're from a previous prescription, they worked last time....
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 06:37 Post subject: |
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Guess Im gunna be playing The Matrix: Online all fuckin nite and day - anyone care to join me? or hopefully I'll smoke myself to sleep
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MAD_MAX333
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 06:53 Post subject: |
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no ideas.. i don't believe in pills so i don't know any.... no call yet?? wtf?
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 09:11 Post subject: |
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| MAD_MAX333 wrote: | | no ideas.. i don't believe in pills so i don't know any.... no call yet?? wtf? |
No call no nothing. She didnt show up or anything. Its like 3am now...and Im wide fuckin awake...still cant get ahold of her...her family wont pick up their fuckin phones...I dunno, maybe she was fuckin with me. Or maybe she figured she'd come tomorrow cuz her friend may not have wanted to drive and shit...I dunno, could be anything and thats whats fuckin tripping me out...atleast if its one specific thing or there is a definitive answer, I know how to react and too feel...but i dont and its fuckin killing me.
And these bs sleeping pills dont work, took enough of em, plus had a few beers to kick in the pills, smoked a buncha weed....and Im wide awake like did yayo or something...heh already called into work....this fuckin sucks man....
Just when i started to feel better about things and finally was to the point where i thought about her maybe once or twice a week ya know? all this shit comes crashing down...god is very vengeful it seems, I wonder what i did? |
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 09:29 Post subject: |
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Do what others do at times like this, sit, straight back, raise your head and howl.
Aoooooooooooooooooooouuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 11:31 Post subject: |
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lol well she hasnt shown up but I know its not over and it didnt solve anything
I expect today is gunna be a fuckin long, stressfull day.
After cooling off a lil and thinking, I think im sure I know whats going on in the respect she is prolly really ashamed and is hesitant to come back
but I dunno and i wont not stress till i find out, one way or another...whether shes fuckn with me or she really does mean what she's saying...I dunno man
And attached...i still love her even tho i hate her...if that makes any sense at all...and thats the thing man, everyone in her life has let her fend for herself so to speak...thats why she is the way she is...someone has to show her that they care and will help her no matter what.
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 11:51 Post subject: |
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Ehrm, is this the one that attempted to kill you in your sleep via slitting your wrists? Perhaps you WANT to be wide awake....just a thought man, heh.
I can't really offer any valid advice, but I hope shit works out for the best for ya man.
I can never be free, because the shackles I wear can't be touched or be seen.
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MAD_MAX333
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 12:16 Post subject: |
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what??? attempted murder??? well then... she definitly do need help... shouldn't be left alone
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fisk
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 12:38 Post subject: |
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My opinion? Once I make my mind up about leaving a girl, that's it. She wants favours from me? I'll ask myself, "would she do this for me?"
In a relationship, I am all about giving, but when I'm out of it, I'm all about "well, what do I get?", should they start becoming bothersome.
Give her a deadline, and try to put the emotions out of your head man, memories and undead (I said UNDEAD) emotions will just grow stronger the more time you spend with her, and then it will certainly come to the point where old wounds will open, and you'll fuck yourself up for months to come, just because she needed a place to stay.
No man, unless you're 100% totally positive, don't do this.
Yes, yes I'm back.
Somewhat.
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 13:22 Post subject: |
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I`ve been into a similar situation - not so harsh like you, but I know what you are talking about.
And the only thing I can say is the same like all your friends tell you:
Fuck her. Don`t ever talk to her for the rest of your life.
At some point its not anymore about you and her; it`s more like You or She.
That are the things that kill a man; you dont really die, but it can ruin your whole life - or a long time of it.
thats just what I experienced....
And I´m pretty sure you will sleep like a stone soon.
Pills and weed normaly knocks me out for 12 hours (didn`t do it for a long time...)
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 14:57 Post subject: |
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mh... i dunno if anything is solved yet... still i try to add a lil advice... and im trying to keep it short...
from your tellings she did some fucked up shit to you and it got apart... still you think you love her... thats the first mistake... you dont lover her but the memory of the good times... and you gotta realise that...
second... she needs either a new guy whos treating her good to make her feel better or she needs professional help to deal with her problems... you can give her neither of it...
last but not least... YOU need a new girl that gives you good times to love again to forget the other good times you keep holding on...
that said... dont let her penetrate your life again... she hurt you once shell do it again... and again... and again... its your life man... get a grip... shes got her life.. and its up to her what she is makin of it... not your problem!
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 21:09 Post subject: |
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Well, Its 3pm and I havent heard from her or her friend since her friend said she was bringing her here. I cant get ahold of her family...I can't ahold of her...man, TOOO MUCH stress for me....
To MaroW, Fisk, Awe - u guys sound like my close friends lol I know i should do all that still...but its hard cuz i dont wanna see her hurt and shit
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 21:10 Post subject: |
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But thanks for all the opinions guys
Seems to be everyone thinks it'd be better if i just dropped her...what i did...but she pulls shit like this and works her way back in ya know? Either she's playing me like a fuckin violin or something is up.....
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fisk
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| Posted: Fri, 5th Aug 2005 22:19 Post subject: |
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Man, don't confuse yourself by thinking this through.
Trust me, when it comes to this issue, there is no way you can form rational thoughts.
Trust your first gut instinct, and go with it. If you start to complicate things by twisting it in your mind, it will end up making you postpone the decision, and in the end make you suffer more.
For her sake too, just let her slide, she's grown up - she'll make it (unless she's a hopeless case, which is another good reason to just let her go).
Yes, yes I'm back.
Somewhat.
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Sun, 7th Aug 2005 00:45 Post subject: |
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Well, she's alright...well, as good as she can be
And Im done with the bitch, I helped her as much as I can...and I told her that she's on her own...maybe shit will work between us, but I gave her the ill call you dont call me thing ya know? Gunna straigthen my fuckin head out again, get my shit dealt with and if I feel like, maybe one day call her up and see where she is in life etc etc
But really, this whole thing, like the last 4 months has been FUBAR...for real.
Acutally, Im gunna give yall the short version and tell me what u think...I think it divine intervention....but in a bad way
Ok, my wife up and leaves for no reason. Go through nuff shit with that, finally chill out and this girl from my teen years came back into my life - we fucked around, had sex a couple of times...and I haven't heard from her since - i've called her twice. But once i call a girl 2 times, I dont call no more, they should call me. Anyway, I dont know what the fuck happened with that. Then, everything was good, i was having fun being single and everything till this shit with my ex...well, yesterday, i go to the store to buy smokes right? and as Im leaving I see the fuckin HOT, like really HOT (she looks like avil lavigne) girl eyeying me down. But I was in a bad mood as this was before I found out what happened to my ex. Anyway, i leave and go home. Well, when i get home, my bwoys are waiting for me and everything to go out and jam...oh yeah, and my brother was chillin at my house watching a couple football games on my big screen - surround sound system right. Anyway, Im out like maybe 3 or 4 hours when I decided to call my house and see if my brother was still there, cuz I needed him to feed my dog cuz I didnt end up gettin home till 6am this morning. Then he's like some HOT fuckin chick stopped by lookin for me twice. Well, it turns out it was the same girl I saw at the store, and we were like best friend's throughout highschool - but we never dated, fucked around, but never dated or had anything with commitment. Anyway, long story short, Im prolly gunna hook up with this chick tonite still (if she ever gets home from this family thing she went to lol)...
This is, all to me, fucked up...because when I decided to make a commitment to my ex wife, I was kinda wondering if i should go for this girl...who is like 10X hotter, no wait, 100X hotter and more "my type" but I didnt....now when I finally get shit settled with the ex wife, she just all of a sudden shows up and comes back into my life....fuck, either someone's playing a sick fuckin game with me, or God is playing a sick fuckin game with me...
Anyway, thanks for all the input guys...funny, what everyone basically said on here, everyone in my...i duno how to put it, in my real life? told me to do..
And Fisk, u hit the nail on the head my friend...when it comes to me and the way I think. U can see why I'm a walkin ball of stress right? even tho im laid back still (I dont know if that makes any sense what so ever).
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