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deelix
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ME: hey mate. So you got the micro?
He: the what???
ME: the micro... Like pwnage n shit..
He: what the fuck are you talking about. Im out of here...
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[sYn]
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Esel_Gesi
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| Posted: Mon, 30th Jan 2006 23:50 Post subject: |
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 I hate small talk as well. But when stuck in a situation, such as taking an elevator with someone you have talked to before, i find it necessary to have a little conversation. I try and make it interesting tho by starting with "did you hear about..." and then talk about something interesting i read or some current event. I find this to be much more interesing and you actually get to know a little about a person. It's better than the general "how was your weekend?" business. |
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[sYn]
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| Posted: Tue, 31st Jan 2006 01:07 Post subject: |
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| deelix wrote: | ME: hey mate. So you got the micro?
He: the what???
ME: the micro... Like pwnage n shit..
He: what the fuck are you talking about. Im out of here... |
oh deelix didnt you say "nice" or anything like that :O
wow you suprise me.. |
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| Posted: Tue, 31st Jan 2006 01:23 Post subject: |
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Yeah, small talk is boring.. But as sYn said, being nice i a good thing.
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| Posted: Tue, 31st Jan 2006 04:18 Post subject: |
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You know what small talk is for? So you can become more comfortable talking to a person, so you can get the basics of their personality. Then you can go onto more personal issues or issues which you find more interesting. You can't just jump into a deep conversation with someone. You have to know if this person is someone you'd actually enjoy entering into a discussion with.
Some of you guys obviously don't have 'teh social micro!'
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Mutantius
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| Posted: Tue, 31st Jan 2006 06:39 Post subject: |
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fisk
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| Posted: Tue, 31st Jan 2006 06:53 Post subject: |
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I am straight to the point, and avoid small talk to the most extent (not wholly though).
That usually scares people to stay at a distance.
Right where I want them.
Yes, yes I'm back.
Somewhat.
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| Posted: Tue, 31st Jan 2006 11:29 Post subject: |
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| AnimalMother wrote: | | You know what small talk is for? So you can become more comfortable talking to a person, so you can get the basics of their personality. Then you can go onto more personal issues or issues which you find more interesting. You can't just jump into a deep conversation with someone. You have to know if this person is someone you'd actually enjoy entering into a discussion with. |
that's why i said: people you don't know and don't want to know.
maybe i also wasn't quite clear about the situation. i was thinking about the really short dialogues, e.g. like esel said in an elevator, on the bus, or just passing by on the street.
scenes when you don't have the time to go into deeper conversations.
conversations that are plain useless.
| fisk wrote: | I am straight to the point, and avoid small talk to the most extent (not wholly though).
That usually scares people to stay at a distance.
Right where I want them. |
that's pretty much how i do it. but some people seem to be really thick.
there's a guy i see almost every day, on the bus from the train station.
but that bus ride takes about 5mins and everytime he starts with the typical: hey, how are you?
it's obvious that he doesn't give a shit about it though, because as soon as he sees someone else he knows, he goes over and asks him the same...
so lately i just read a book and put my earphones in to avoid this crap.
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TheSaint
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| Posted: Tue, 31st Jan 2006 15:51 Post subject: |
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i hate small talk, when i talk to someone i always hit the topic i m interested in right away. it always works, some people do feel surprised but in the end they all get along with me well
because they notice i m not bullshitting or circling around.
people dont really take notice of you if you start off with small talk cuz thats what everyone does, but if you open a real topic right away, they ll prolly get interested quickly.
if you see some hot girl at the bar you can be sure that alot of guys already tried to get close to her with the old fashioned "nice weather today" or "i havent seen you her before" crap.
why not just go and tell her straight away youre interested in her, many girls if not all will definitely prefer this to pointless small talk.
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sTo0z
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| Posted: Tue, 31st Jan 2006 17:10 Post subject: |
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Usually when I ask people how they are I really want to know... 
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| Posted: Tue, 31st Jan 2006 20:08 Post subject: |
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Yeah, I don't see what the problem is. If you don't want to get into a conversation with someone then don't, no-ones forcing you to. The only time I use smalltalk is if there is actually a point to it i.e I want to get an initial impression of someones personality, or i'm bored.
Just walk off if you can't be arsed, I do it all the time. Sure the people think i'm rude, but obviously the person didn't matter to me in the first place if I can't be bothered with them. If it's someone in a lift or a bus trying to talk to you, so you can't walk off, just look at them for a second, so they know you heard them, then turn away. They'll get the message.
But if someone just came up to me, and started talking about something personal, like kuja reckons he does, i'd just think "who the fuck are you?".
TheSaint, you want a girlfriend, yet you hate it when girls talk to you. Makes sense.
"Techniclly speaking, Beta-Manboi didnt inject Burberry_Massi with Benz, he injected him with liquid that had air bubbles in it, which caused benz." - House M.D
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| Posted: Tue, 31st Jan 2006 20:23 Post subject: |
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i m not saying talking about something personal before getting to know the person, i just said its better to skip all the small talk stuff that doesnt interest you.
small talk = talking about stuff you dont give a fuck about and the other one doesnt either.
if you re asking a guy how he is because you really wanna know, thats not small talk,
small talk is just a means to get where you want.
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| Posted: Tue, 31st Jan 2006 22:21 Post subject: |
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I thought small talk was talking about something inconsequential, something simple or shallow. Such as the weather, or what someone thinks of a lesson etc. With the aim being to get an impression of their personality.
The topic isn't particularly important, but the way someone reacts can give you a small insight into how they think.
Maybe we think of it differently, but i'd never bother to small talk with someone if they meant nothing to me unless I was bored myself.
"Techniclly speaking, Beta-Manboi didnt inject Burberry_Massi with Benz, he injected him with liquid that had air bubbles in it, which caused benz." - House M.D
"Faith without logic is the same as knowledge without understanding; meaningless"
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Though we had a smalltalk first, so I quess your theory holds AM 
