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 Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 06:36 Post subject: Relationship Experts Gather! What the hell does this mean!? |
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Ok, when a girl says..."I need some space and time alone"
What in the world does it mean? I know I can't sign her up with NASA but what the hell is this?
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 07:13 Post subject: |
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That's the start of a break up.
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 07:13 Post subject: |
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The first sign of a break up OR she just needs time to think about shit.....then will break up. Some women are just too stupid to spare someones emotions with their dumb trivias and just come out and say crap
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 07:45 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 08:12 Post subject: |
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| KrAzY-KaMeL wrote: | | Ah shit. |
sorry man, just give her some time to think about shit then talk to her face to face about it, mabye you can talk her out of it and try something different in the relationship to make it work if she's worth it. IF it is her breaking up with you, best not to have it end sourly as it causes more problems than what you'll need.
| Reg67 wrote: | | SpykeZ wrote: | | The first sign of a break up OR she just needs time to think about shit.....then will break up. Some women are just too stupid to spare someones emotions with their dumb trivias and just come out and say crap |
Very true unfortunately  Its best to be honest than toy with someones feelings |
sometimes lol, i've got a reputation around here not to ask my opinion if your easily offended. I could make hitler cry  |
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[sYn]
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 08:26 Post subject: |
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Ever thought she might be having a hard time and doesn't feel like she is in a good place to talk about it.. thus needs time alone?
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 08:43 Post subject: |
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I'm the expert here ffs! "I need some space and time alone" is just another word for surprise shit me in the mouth when I sleep. Do that asap or she WILL break up with you.
I know what women wants
any hot girls I can buy pee from? paying 1£ per liter
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 08:47 Post subject: |
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Well let me fill you guys in a bit as to what the circumstances are.
Basically the girl has returned from a trip to another country to visit her family. Upon her return she realized that the 1 month she was gone was such a nice vacation, no worries, no problems, no stress. As soon as she returned she got bombarded by family and all of life's responsibilities and now misses the relaxation she got while visiting her family.
What this has to do with me is the fact that upon her return I sorta caused an argument about how we have not seen each other in over a month and she is spending so much time with her family, yes I was being selfish. She got really fed up and said all sorts of shit that I would not expect from her like "there's nothing left" "there is nothing left to fight for" etc.
Being dumb I kept calling her to figure stuff out, there were so many ?'s as to what the hell is going on and she kept telling me I need time and space. I had no idea what she was talking about and kept chasing her and chasing her for the week she was back until she completely blew up on me. She said stop being selfish and realize that I'm still in that country, I don't fall asleep until 6AM, I haven't even finished unpacking, my family misses me your not the only person I left for a month! I NEED SPACE!
That's basically what she said, so 5 days ago I called her the last time to tell her that I'm gonna give her this space and that I'll be here whenever she is ready. She told me Thank You and she Loves me and Misses me but she doesn't wanna see me right now. She is under a lot of stress and pressure catching back up with life since she's been gone, having trouble keeping up with rent and work and school. So for the past 5 or so days I've respected her wishes and not made any contact but holy shit is it hard!
Now I don't know if I should just e-mail her and say give me my shit back i'll give you yours because I take it that your indirectly breaking up with me OR wait it out and have some confidence in our relationship and that she just needs to sort stuff out with her life and stuff will be cool. Looking at it as She'll give me a call when things are ok.
5 days! Feels like an eternity! Damn! How long should I wait!? 2 weeks!? 
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[sYn]
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 08:54 Post subject: |
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She actually sounds like a really nice girl and is just a bit messed up atm..
why not send her a little card (through the post not email) just saying hi and i'm thinking of you and hope you are O.K that sort of thing? Nothing heavy or romantic, just the sort of card with a little rhyme that one friend would send to another friend who is having family trouble..
I think she would appreciate that and also see that you are willing to let her sort her probs out, but also that you are still there for her and thinking of her...
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 08:59 Post subject: |
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haha, I tried the card. In fact I made a damn poster card completely out of scratch. This was the girl I unloaded $600 for V-Day on for stuff she could never afford but while she was gone for a month I was able to save up and get her the stuff. And no it was not really a waste since she has helped me financially numerous times.
She really really liked the card but she just didn't have it in her at the time to enjoy my company.
So you guys are saying just cut the contact and let her come to me whenever she settles down?
How long would you say that would take?
EDIT: Nice girl? Bro this is the sweetest girl on the face of the earth. She literally encompasses every aspect a guy looks for in a girl.
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[sYn]
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 09:05 Post subject: |
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I would give it a week, then maybe send a SMS message or email just saying "I'm thinking about you".. don't add any pressure but let her know that she is still very important to you. Keep it short and sweet. Then give it another week, if she still hasn't got in touch give her a call and make it ALL ABOUT HER! Ask if she is ok, if she WANTS to talk (not needs), ask if there is anything you can do (again, not anything she NEEDS you to do).. keep the pressure as low as possible..
If she's such a nice girl, you should do everything you can to keep her.. even if that means being alone yourself for a while..
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 09:11 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 09:16 Post subject: |
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| [sYn] wrote: | I would give it a week, then maybe send a SMS message or email just saying "I'm thinking about you".. don't add any pressure but let her know that she is still very important to you. Keep it short and sweet. Then give it another week, if she still hasn't got in touch give her a call and make it ALL ABOUT HER! Ask if she is ok, if she WANTS to talk (not needs), ask if there is anything you can do (again, not anything she NEEDS you to do).. keep the pressure as low as possible..
If she's such a nice girl, you should do everything you can to keep her.. even if that means being alone yourself for a while.. |
I think think this is good advice.
I think she sees you as just yet another responsibility right now and resents it. Later if you talk to her I would just ask her how she is doing, how her family is doing, and that she can call you anytime.
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 09:21 Post subject: |
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Hey pistolshrimp I never looked at it like that, as if I was an added burden/responsibility since nothing of this nature or scale has ever come up in our 1 year and 5 months together.
Some people told me that 90% of the time in situations like this another guy is involved and I'm screwed. But she specifically made it clear there are no other guys and that sorta brings my hopes up.
That means Wednesday I should send her a brief message. But I'm thinking of holding it off until the weekend.
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 15:20 Post subject: Re: Relationship Experts Gather! What the hell does this mea |
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| KrAzY-KaMeL wrote: | Ok, when a girl says..."I need some space and time alone"
What in the world does it mean? I know I can't sign her up with NASA but what the hell is this? |
She says bye.
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 17:29 Post subject: |
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When she was on vacation she met other guys and now is not happy with you. Women collect men - cold harsh truth.
Emotionally prepare yourself for the phone call that it is over.
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 18:05 Post subject: |
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^what kind of woman wants to buy other girls pee... not many, and i don't think you would find any on nforce..
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| Posted: Mon, 19th Feb 2007 18:10 Post subject: |
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| KnightRider2006 wrote: | When she was on vacation she met other guys and now is not happy with you. Women collect men - cold harsh truth.
Emotionally prepare yourself for the phone call that it is over. |
This time I must agree with Knightrider2006. She probably met someone nice during her vacation.
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