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arw
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 Posted: Thu, 18th Oct 2007 17:53 Post subject: |
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I will admit i did grab her face
Grab her by the face?
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Bigperm
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| Posted: Thu, 18th Oct 2007 18:02 Post subject: |
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Well i don't condone violence, on any level. But cheating is also the lowest of the low. I say man up, and kick her to the curb. Be strong, and move on. I cannot live with a cheater, and never will.
| Jenni wrote: | | I drunk. I don't fucking care! |
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arw
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TheSaint
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| Posted: Thu, 18th Oct 2007 18:07 Post subject: Re: My girlfriend cheated on me...:-( |
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| arw wrote: | | I just found out my girlfriend of 6 years cheated on me |
You shouldn't get into relation with children, they tend to be childish.
on a more serious note, damn sucks man. just see if you gonna accept it, depends on how much you love her.
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X_Dror
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| Posted: Thu, 18th Oct 2007 18:07 Post subject: |
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Sounds like a bitch.
Throwing the blame on you?! LOL. "We have to break up, but not because I cheated on you , but because you almost hit me out of anger because I cheated on you."
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arw
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| Posted: Thu, 18th Oct 2007 18:12 Post subject: |
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| Bigperm wrote: | | Well i don't condone violence, on any level. But cheating is also the lowest of the low. I say man up, and kick her to the curb. Be strong, and move on. I cannot live with a cheater, and never will. |
I know and i will admit i was wrong, upto then i had never raised a hand to her EVER...This argument was different she seemed to be winding me up on purpose as if hse wanted me to hit her...As for dumping her i just wish it was that easy (A little thing called LOVE)..:-/
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Bigperm
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| Posted: Thu, 18th Oct 2007 18:21 Post subject: |
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| arw wrote: | | Bigperm wrote: | | Well i don't condone violence, on any level. But cheating is also the lowest of the low. I say man up, and kick her to the curb. Be strong, and move on. I cannot live with a cheater, and never will. |
I know and i will admit i was wrong, upto then i had never raised a hand to her EVER...This argument was different she seemed to be winding me up on purpose as if hse wanted me to hit her...As for dumping her i just wish it was that easy (A little thing called LOVE)..:-/ |
Been there man, I was so close to tieing the knot, then i found out she cheated on me. I tried and tried to just shrug it off, but i couldn't (Maybe your stronger?) and i kept on just thinking of her with someone else, it drove me mad. The relationship was never the same. But hey thats just me, i know others that have moved passed that, i couldn't.
I was a mess for years, but now, finally i am madly in love with my new Girl, shes everything i wanted and more, and we are going to be married within a year (Hopefully, ring is being made as i type). Just be true to yourself, like i was. And breaking up is never easy, but in my case, it was worth it.
| Jenni wrote: | | I drunk. I don't fucking care! |
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arw
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| Posted: Thu, 18th Oct 2007 18:35 Post subject: |
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Good thing you realize what you did wrong, even tough you are very upset at the moment.
You might be right in that she was looking for a reason to get out. Now she can blame you alone.
Good luck in the future.
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| Posted: Thu, 18th Oct 2007 18:37 Post subject: |
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It probably would have happened anyways, she just wanted to lay the guilt on you.
Sorry to hear, 6 years is a long time. Lots of memories and shared experiences that will remind you of her every day for a long time. I remember when me and my old girlfriend broke up (3 years together).. Heavy times, but they fade eventually .
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| Posted: Thu, 18th Oct 2007 18:45 Post subject: |
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I guess that sucks, but the "I wanted to hit her"-part isn't going to score any sympathy points...
In some weird way you are even. Maybe she only said she cheated, to piss you off?
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arw
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arw
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| Posted: Thu, 18th Oct 2007 18:57 Post subject: |
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| PoorLeno wrote: | I guess that sucks, but the "I wanted to hit her"-part isn't going to score any sympathy points...
In some weird way you are even. Maybe she only said she cheated, to piss you off? |
Trust me after hours of pushing and pushing she could have got a priest to hit her..
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| Posted: Thu, 18th Oct 2007 19:02 Post subject: |
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fact is: you didnt hit her, thinking about and doing are 2 different things
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Lutzifer
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| Posted: Thu, 18th Oct 2007 19:07 Post subject: |
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i have seen women act like that before. Trying to make the boyfriend so angry at them, that they got physical, so they had a reason to say "look, he hit me" and get all the sympathy in the break-up. Those break-ups i witnessed were doomed before that point though as the women were already looking for a new guy quite some time before that, so the arguments they got into seemed arbitrary. That s not saying that hitting your partner is ok, but i have some sympathy for you there, if she really forced your hand.
I hope yoú ll get over it, as break-ups of long-term relationships can throw you in the gutter emotionally for a long time. I ve been through two and a half major break-ups and it s not been fun any time around...
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| Posted: Thu, 18th Oct 2007 20:02 Post subject: |
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Wow, i´d be so motherfucking pissed i don´t know what id do.. Not hit her ofcourse, cause that is weak and pathetic. But i actually do understand you when you thought about it, maybe i would too, but never actually do it.
Take care man, even though you must feel horrible.
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Karmeck
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| Posted: Thu, 18th Oct 2007 20:59 Post subject: |
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you don't (attemp) hit girls dude, thats not cool.
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_SiN_
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| Posted: Thu, 18th Oct 2007 21:08 Post subject: |
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| Karmeck wrote: | | you don't (attemp) hit girls dude, thats not cool. |
Theres a big difference in ATTEMPTING (trying to) and thinking of it.
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Fri, 19th Oct 2007 03:15 Post subject: |
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She tried to justify her self. If you were to snap it'd give her the right to cheat on you. It's complicated kind of thing but it's fucked. It's how they, women, work.
Like, if they care for you, truly, madly, deeply, then they'll take all the guilt in on themselves and just break up with you and you'll end up being the good man. But when they force you get angry they'll feel guilty for it and they need some sort of recompense. It's hard to explain.
Like imagine stealing candy from a store and then saying the candy was shit and no one would buy it. So you stole it for the sake of stealing it and if they were to arrest you, you'd go to prison smiling knowing that you did the right thing not paying for shitty candy.
I don't want to compare you to shitty candy. I went through the same thing you did. Well not really the same thing. But my ex cheated on me. And I'm ok with it. I'm still her friend. Like it's a bad idea and such cause I fell for her head over heels and such... but like I really don't care now. I'm too busy in school for any relationship. I know it sounds corny but i leave the house at 7am and i come home pass 12am daily. 24/7 kind of thing. Y'know.
Anyway the girl cheated on me and she felt bad and we had to break it up. The guy didn't want her back and such and so I stayed her friend.
I can't hold grudges. and it doesn't mean i'm a better man and all cause that kind of attitude is bull shit. It fucks you up. There's this girl you fucked, slept with, been affectionate with, intimate and all that kind of relationship bull shit and you're back to square one. Hearing how her new boyfriend mistreats her and all. You can't go back to where you were and all. So it hurts... a lot.
I've been told to cut off contact with her from day 1 we broke up. But i can't.
I know what you're going through.
Basically... she knows what she did is wrong. She's not looking for a new guy. But she doesn't want herself to seem like the lower person in the relationship. Like having you something over her head... y'know. So she doesn't come off as the bad guy. It's very complex and all but she doesn't want to be at fault here. It's fucked up. But she wants to break up because of something YOU did, not something she did. I dunno if any of it makes sense and all but yeah... that's how women work.
Like if a guy were to cheat it's all, yeh i got something to fall through so fuck off and i'll have a g/f tomorrow if i have to. With a girl it's like, yeah i cheated but it's not my fault. I dun wanna offend the girls here, but it's true. From what i've live through and from what i've seen. Guys get the worst treatment if they cheat. and girls are like... it's ok for them to cheat.  
Talk to her. Find out what compelled her to do it. Discuss it. And then break up with her. Don't hit her cause she'll win any argument you've got. Cheating fucking sucks. Seriously. Any person that cheats on their significant other should have their balls cut off or their tits ripped off. I get fucking pissed when my mates tell me they cheated on their gf. It's like fuck for you have a gf then? I know you can go and find something new and fresh anytime you're at a bar, but like, why keep a relationship then. Y'know. You end up hurting someone 10x. It just pisses me off. I went through 2 girls that cheated on me.
I'm still their friend and such. 1st one is ok and all, but 2nd, recent one, it's kinda hard to talk to and all. But y'know what... you learn from it. If you want to break up, you can and you should. But if you really like her, love her, then you should talk to her about it and discuss it and see how you can look over it. Y'know.
Cause basically cheating is just sex. And you didn't bag a virgin. I'm sure she fucked many guys before you. So, just look at it as a guy she fucked ages ago and it doesn't mean a thing. Y'know. If she feels strongly about this guy, then move on cause it'll continue. No matter how hard you think it wont... it will. A flame has been lit. 
So...
Talk to her and then decide what to do. Don't get into an argument cause it's what they want.
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| Posted: Fri, 19th Oct 2007 07:31 Post subject: |
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I'm not trying to be an enemy here but is it not possible she's also scared that you might act out on violence again, I mean you did grab her by the face and woulda hit her had you not caught yourself
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| Posted: Fri, 19th Oct 2007 07:32 Post subject: |
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I'm not trying to be an enemy here but is it not possible she's also scared that you might act out on violence again, I mean you did grab her by the face and woulda hit her had you not caught yourself..
or was that AFTER she told you she cheated on you....then you shoulda hit her lol
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| Posted: Fri, 19th Oct 2007 08:18 Post subject: |
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It was after... right?
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| Posted: Fri, 19th Oct 2007 09:12 Post subject: |
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Hiting a girl is just wrong and weak as stated before. Im not saying that if you are cheated dont get mad ...
Humans usualy take these mesaures whan they dont find any words to say. So if you find yourself in the inferior position among conversation, it is in human nature to take extreme mesaures ( beat ).
Belive me that everybody gone trough that, but look it from the bright side. What doesnt breaks you , it makes you stronger.
Im quite happy, that im in 9 year relationshp. After that ammount of time both of us are trying to be kind to each one, and not competeing with each other whos right and whos wrong. It is like a good wine, older it is, better it gets.
And my english suck balls big time.
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WaldoJ
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if the dinner aint set, the bitch better know how to dodge me like i'm tyson! 
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| Posted: Fri, 19th Oct 2007 14:23 Post subject: |
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well , since he didnt hit her even when in a situation like this and pushed to the limit , proves there is no need to take any blame on him .
good luck finding someone else , trust me , when its over you will think you wont find anything her like again , but you will find it .
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Fri, 19th Oct 2007 14:26 Post subject: |
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| Stefan F wrote: | | trust me , when its over you will think you wont find anything her like again , but you will find it . |
  I'm still lookin' haha
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...I will admit i did grab her face and i did want to hit her but i walked away the best part is tho she is useing that as an excuse for cheating.
