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Cohen
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 Posted: Mon, 7th Jul 2008 02:41 Post subject: |
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If you don't tell them they will start to get insecure about your relationship. I would much rather chance it with a high probability of success than to have the relationship in a bad situation which could lead to its demise.
Tell her because its the truth and the truth should always be spoken. You will be rewarded my friend. Also don't get any ideas that you can do sweet things expressing your love instead of saying it directly as nothing means more than your own words.
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Nui
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| Posted: Mon, 7th Jul 2008 02:46 Post subject: |
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I just want to wish you good luck!
kogel mogel
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| Posted: Mon, 7th Jul 2008 03:34 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Mon, 7th Jul 2008 03:55 Post subject: |
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If you're too shy to say it in words, say it in actions.
I also think fisk should be unbanned.
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| Posted: Mon, 7th Jul 2008 04:30 Post subject: |
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| dominae wrote: | | If you're too shy to say it in words, say it in actions. |
The truth!!!
Why do people always have to talk and ruin eveything.
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| Posted: Mon, 7th Jul 2008 05:14 Post subject: |
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| pistolshrimp wrote: | | dominae wrote: | | If you're too shy to say it in words, say it in actions. |
The truth!!!
Why do people always have to talk and ruin eveything. |
O please you know those actions would most likely result in gifts. Actually saying what he means with the passionate voice would be much better than any action.
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| Posted: Mon, 7th Jul 2008 05:44 Post subject: |
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Gift don't mean anything either. Too easy to buy a gift.
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| Posted: Mon, 7th Jul 2008 07:20 Post subject: |
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I sent my gf a box today, in it is a cute little white teddy, and in his hands I tied a lettre, in that lettre I enclosed some tender words and a nice necklace with a pink pearl attached to it. That lettre was fully compiled in reverse stating my love:LOL: She loves crazy people, so I gave her crazy:)
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| Posted: Mon, 7th Jul 2008 07:34 Post subject: |
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If you want to express your love to someone, tell them. Speak to her, explain to her the things that you love about them. How you feel about yourself when they are around.
Getting a gift is a great way to express love, just don't be generic. The gift must mean something, it should be significant (not cost wise.) A gift that someone can always have around, and something they can tell a story about. That way they will always be reminded of you, and how you feel for her, and hopefully how she feels for you.
Read not to contradict and confute, nor to believe and take for granted, but to weigh and consider.
To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.
In all your remembering, remember that you have choices
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| Posted: Mon, 7th Jul 2008 11:46 Post subject: |
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Oh geez, are you so uncreative that "giving a present" is the only action you can figure out to show affection?
Basic stuff really, looking at her while smiling, kissing, carressing, hugging, blowing some air into her ear. You don't really need to use money, give her attention; that'll express it clearly.
I also think fisk should be unbanned.
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Cohen
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| Posted: Mon, 7th Jul 2008 12:08 Post subject: |
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ChinUp
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| Posted: Mon, 7th Jul 2008 12:41 Post subject: |
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| NuclearShadow wrote: | | O please you know those actions would most likely result in gifts. Actually saying what he means with the passionate voice would be much better than any action. |
I think not. Love is an action not a word, the word is just an attempt @ describing the action. No need to say anything show your love. Remove all that is between you & bathe in your love for each other. Words just get in the way more often than not. When you really sharing love with somebody everything else in the world just fades into the distance, only your unity exists. All to soon a distraction or insecurity will draw you back into the loveless realm of fears & insecurities, distractions & hungers.
Take every chance @ submersing yourself in love. The longer you spend loving the more you will be able to address the pain & loneliness of life honestly. Do not waste this short life stalling or with people who don't have the courage to love. When your committed to loving for the sake of loving, you can tell who loves you & who doesn't like you can tell black from white. The hard part is being honest with yourself. Don't wait for somebody to get around to loving you back. They don't they wont. Just back off & let them go.
"Most of the change we think we see in life is due to truths being in & out of favor." ~ Frost
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| Posted: Mon, 7th Jul 2008 20:28 Post subject: |
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Good post ChinUp.
I also think fisk should be unbanned.
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| Posted: Tue, 8th Jul 2008 07:04 Post subject: |
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I like ChinUp's post too.
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| Posted: Tue, 8th Jul 2008 07:12 Post subject: |
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Chinup's post is kind of neat, but certainly not the way life works.
People have senses, five of which we actively recognize you know sight, sound, smell, touch, and taste.
So just being doesn't stimulate any senses, except perhaps touch if you are together. learning to effectively stimulate the other senses is equally important, they all have their place.
This is why I suggested a personalized gift, which would trigger sentimental value, which would encourage remembering the quiet times, the touches and the love, even when they are not physically together.
Read not to contradict and confute, nor to believe and take for granted, but to weigh and consider.
To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.
In all your remembering, remember that you have choices
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| Posted: Tue, 8th Jul 2008 07:18 Post subject: |
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Yes, there are such gifts but they are hard to come by. Very rare actually. I would say a large % of people can't even fathon what that might be. When given they are more special then any diamonds or gold.
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| Posted: Tue, 8th Jul 2008 07:41 Post subject: |
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| pistolshrimp wrote: | | Yes, there are such gifts but they are hard to come by. Very rare actually. I would say a large % of people can't even fathon what that might be. When given they are more special then any diamonds or gold. |
Sounds like you have received one at some point. If you have received one, I must ask, have you ever given one?
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ChinUp
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| Posted: Tue, 8th Jul 2008 17:11 Post subject: |
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That is a little harsh Chin. I am sure Martian has had plenty of experience with the non-whorish type of woman.
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| Posted: Tue, 8th Jul 2008 17:15 Post subject: |
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| pistolshrimp wrote: | | That is a little harsh Chin. I am sure Martian has had plenty of experience with the non-whorish type of woman. |
I wouldn't worry about me, Chinup is a crazy idealist, the type of person who doesn't realize that life isn't based on the wonderful idea's of great thinkers.
People are complex organisms, and require attention, affection, and stimulation to all senses this is just a plain fact. Chinup would have us believe that we are somehow beyond what we really are.
Edit: Humans are animals in everyway shape and form. We are just the smartest ones.
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ChinUp
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I suppose its down to what you consider to be whorish. Whats harsh is Martian telling himself & others that real love cant exist, to compensate for the purely physical alternative he has resined himself too. Bottom line your not going to ever find out what it is to really love somebody so long as your busy with your security mechanisms. love exists in the wild uncontrolled realms of human experience. Not in the safe controlled cages we build to protect ourselves from the reality of life's pain & loneliness. Loving is what being human is all about, everything else is just compensating for not loving. When you love all the stupid worries & fears of life fall away because you are @ the source of happiness, liberty, joy all the things that make life worth living. No trinket can compare with true love. Something felt far deeper than just your senses or skin. Your never the same after you feel that bond which makes being alive count for something. Being able to accept someones love & being able to love truly love somebody is the ultimate in human experience, climbing mountains, winning F1 races are cheap & tinny in comparison.
Martian123 what you call love can be purchased @ any 5 star hotel. 
| Martian123 wrote: | | I wouldn't worry about me, Chinup is a crazy idealist, |
You think I'm crazy because what i speak of is outside of your reality. I'd rather be crazy than live a life of nothing but shallow hate due to being too much of a coward to actually fulfill my potential as a human rather than a scurrying animal preoccupied with securities.
You want to express love, do it with with your whole being, represent the potency of your life awareness, your willingness to hold her in your arms eternally. If she cant go there with you, would rather be given gifts & concern herself with image worries, drop her. Plenty of guys who use their wallet rather than their heart are there for her type.
"Most of the change we think we see in life is due to truths being in & out of favor." ~ Frost
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| Posted: Tue, 8th Jul 2008 17:50 Post subject: |
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 thas tru chinup. not your last remark.  but is tru. luv luv exists  it's annoying but it exists
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| Posted: Tue, 8th Jul 2008 17:55 Post subject: |
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Chinup
You have obviously figured out the world, there is nothing left for you here, you must be ready to ascend to another level of concisousness...
But please do not come on here telling people that I state love cannot exist, you blatantly put those words into my mouth, and that in of itself is exactly why I refuse to discuss this any further, you are a liar! If you don't like what I say than don't like it. Do not under any circumstances make up lie's or place assumptions because I believe different than yourself. I have read many of your posts saying open up your mind to other possibilities, yet you are entirely closed off to mine, funny how that works.
Not worth my time, but thank you for sharing.
Read not to contradict and confute, nor to believe and take for granted, but to weigh and consider.
To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.
In all your remembering, remember that you have choices
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ChinUp
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Tue, 8th Jul 2008 18:07 Post subject: |
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K. thas a bit emo... eh  I wouldn't go THAT far
| Sin317 wrote: | | I win, you lose. Or Go fuck yourself. |
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ChinUp
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