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twobells
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Dear Auntie
ok, so i screwed up........
I had some guy rent the apartment above mine and he was inconsiderate to say the least, especially as I was getting over extensive surgery.
Anyway, we end up raging at each other, I threaten him, he says he's gonna tell his mum, you know the usual.
Sound Systems competing, no-one is getting any sleep.
About 3 months into his rental his gf leaves and a new girl moves in VERY hot I assume its his new gf and its the same old crap re the noise....
Suddenly he has to move back to Spain and she keeps the apartment, turns out they are not a couple but just sharing, what a difference, she is as quiet as a mouse.
The problem is that I had assumed that she was the one guilty of at least half of the noise and responded negatively.
She doesn't seem to have any friends in England so I tried to make good by putting in a motion detecter light for her when she comes in late [she works all hours] and even going as far as writing a quick note welcoming her to the area etc, no response but you can tell she is trying hard to be a good neighbor, so I assumed its only a matter of time before we're good.WRONG.
Today her family/friends turn up from the 'old country [she's from Czechoslovakia] ]' and they made it quite clear through their actions [they were about as friendly as artic polar bears] they weren't amused.
The thing is I am getting quite a crush on her which is unusual for me as I never have problems in that regard and don't 'do' crushes.
What on earth can I do to make things right without her thinking I am a nuisance?
I have a terrible feeling she hates my guts, and I probably deserve it but come on she's HOT and nice with it [just not to me]
tb
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Cohen
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Sep 2008 15:22 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Sep 2008 15:22 Post subject: |
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The other guy has certainly been badmouthing you, so she thinks you're a jerk.
pwned.
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Sep 2008 17:18 Post subject: Re: the girl upstairs |
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| twobells wrote: | | Anyway, we end up raging at each other, I threaten him, he says he's gonna tell his mum, you know the usual. |
This is not usual at the age where you live on your own
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Sep 2008 17:19 Post subject: |
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Maybe try talk to her and invite her to a "tour in the city"?
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Sep 2008 17:39 Post subject: |
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treat her to a fancy dinner, if she declines she's crazy.
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Sep 2008 20:21 Post subject: |
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| Pfiemelcheese wrote: | | treat her to a fancy dinner, if she declines she's crazy. |
Instead of crazy maybe she has standards. She is not willing to except a fancy dinner from someone she hates.
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twobells
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| Posted: Sun, 7th Sep 2008 16:23 Post subject: Re: the girl upstairs |
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| kenny64 wrote: | | twobells wrote: | | Anyway, we end up raging at each other, I threaten him, he says he's gonna tell his mum, you know the usual. |
This is not usual at the age where you live on your own |
That was tongue in cheek, what I should have said was that I had words with him about the noise which he chose to ignore.
tb
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twobells
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| Posted: Sun, 7th Sep 2008 16:31 Post subject: |
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| pistolshrimp wrote: | | Pfiemelcheese wrote: | | treat her to a fancy dinner, if she declines she's crazy. |
Instead of crazy maybe she has standards. She is not willing to except a fancy dinner from someone she hates. |
Yeah you may be right, the thing that drives me crazy is I have a weird feeling about her, like a destiny thing, but its up to me to find a way to make things right.
Just talking about 'destiny' in reference to the opposite sex shows somehing weirds going on......
All I can do is try and be a good neighbor and hope things improve, but I kind of doubt that cause I was a bit of a bastard to her [thinking she was making all the noise]
tb
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| Posted: Sun, 7th Sep 2008 18:01 Post subject: |
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twobells
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| Posted: Sun, 7th Sep 2008 18:05 Post subject: |
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| Yondaime wrote: | Why don't you just be direct and tell her what you told us. That you were mistaken and thought she was making the noise, and that you were absolutely wrong in acting the way you did to her.
If anything, that would show you're not a complete ass, that you do have some decency. Honesty goes a long way. |
Sounds good, all I need to do now is bump into her 'accidently'.
tb
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Karmeck
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| Posted: Sun, 7th Sep 2008 18:14 Post subject: |
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Or just print this page and put it in her mail.
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| Posted: Sun, 7th Sep 2008 19:22 Post subject: |
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| twobells wrote: | | pistolshrimp wrote: | | Pfiemelcheese wrote: | | treat her to a fancy dinner, if she declines she's crazy. |
Instead of crazy maybe she has standards. She is not willing to except a fancy dinner from someone she hates. |
Yeah you may be right, the thing that drives me crazy is I have a weird feeling about her, like a destiny thing, but its up to me to find a way to make things right.
Just talking about 'destiny' in reference to the opposite sex shows somehing weirds going on......
All I can do is try and be a good neighbor and hope things improve, but I kind of doubt that cause I was a bit of a bastard to her [thinking she was making all the noise]
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Sometimes conflict can turn into attraction. Remember back in elementry school "boys chase the girls" game, and how boys would torment the girls they liked?
| Yondaime wrote: | Why don't you just be direct and tell her what you told us. That you were mistaken and thought she was making the noise, and that you were absolutely wrong in acting the way you did to her.
If anything, that would show you're not a complete ass, that you do have some decency. Honesty goes a long way. |
Prob the smart thing to do.
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twobells
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| Posted: Mon, 8th Sep 2008 14:26 Post subject: |
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"Sometimes conflict can turn into attraction. Remember back in elementry school "boys chase the girls" game, and how boys would torment the girls they liked?"
You know you may be onto something there, there does seem to be a lot of friction/heat/tension.
Today didn't go so well, I was loading the car and she looks over quite friendly ready for a chat and I blew it by blanking her totally, don't ask me why I did, i can tell you; its because I feel bad about how I behaved.
I'm hopeless when it comes to this sort of thing.
tb
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| Posted: Mon, 8th Sep 2008 16:38 Post subject: |
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Next time you know she's home (and hopefully alone..) just go up and knock on her door and apologize for your behaviour and explain yourself.
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twobells
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| Posted: Mon, 8th Sep 2008 18:30 Post subject: |
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| SpaceWiz wrote: | | Next time you know she's home (and hopefully alone..) just go up and knock on her door and apologize for your behaviour and explain yourself. |
yessum, right away.
tb
following day "um, excuse me Veronica but SpaceWiz ordered me to explain my actions over the last few months and to express my undying love"
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| Posted: Mon, 8th Sep 2008 18:33 Post subject: |
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| twobells wrote: | | SpaceWiz wrote: | | Next time you know she's home (and hopefully alone..) just go up and knock on her door and apologize for your behaviour and explain yourself. |
yessum, right away.
tb
following day "um, excuse me Veronica but SpaceWiz ordered me to explain my actions over the last few months and to express my undying love"
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No. Leave her alone. Bad idea to harrass the pretty girls. They get creeped out. Next time you see her say something friendly. If you have a party and you have cake send her a piece.
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| Posted: Wed, 10th Sep 2008 18:46 Post subject: |
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| pistolshrimp wrote: | | No. Leave her alone. Bad idea to harrass the pretty girls. They get creeped out. |
Wouldnt all girls be creeped out by such behaviour?
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| Posted: Wed, 10th Sep 2008 19:28 Post subject: |
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Just wait in front of her door until she comes home... with your dick in your hands and say: "Um, excuse me but I'm here to check your plumbing!" It will get really interesting from here on...
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Your plan needs to incorporate a shrine......
If somethings worth doing, it's worth doing right; what I was always taught anyway.....
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twobells
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| Posted: Wed, 10th Sep 2008 20:16 Post subject: |
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| SilverBlue wrote: | | pistolshrimp wrote: | | No. Leave her alone. Bad idea to harrass the pretty girls. They get creeped out. |
Wouldnt all girls be creeped out by such behaviour? |
Yes, of course, I had no intention of following any such advice, anyway the drama will be over soon, I bought her a diary for 2009 and wrote inside:
'This small token is in part my way of saying sorry for not being a better neighbor when you moved in, with that in mind I would like to treat you to one thing that you would like to do before you leave.
Just let me know what it is and I will try to arrange it.
Within these pages I have taken the liberty of writing out my contact details, if you ever need aid just contact me and I will do my best to help whatever the circumstances.
However, I do understand if you prefer to just throw the diary away, I cannot blame you.'
[I expect to find the 2009 diary in the garbage tomorrow.]
tb
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| Posted: Wed, 10th Sep 2008 20:34 Post subject: |
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| SilverBlue wrote: | | pistolshrimp wrote: | | No. Leave her alone. Bad idea to harrass the pretty girls. They get creeped out. |
Wouldnt all girls be creeped out by such behaviour? |
Some would and some wouldn't. Everybody is different.
I just have a feeling he needs to back off. I am sure I am going to be attacked from the 'you didn't do enough' people. This is just my tiny side of the story.
twobells
Gotta ask, where did you come up with that name?
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twobells
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| Posted: Wed, 10th Sep 2008 21:09 Post subject: |
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| pistolshrimp wrote: | | SilverBlue wrote: | | pistolshrimp wrote: | | No. Leave her alone. Bad idea to harrass the pretty girls. They get creeped out. |
Wouldnt all girls be creeped out by such behaviour? |
Some would and some wouldn't. Everybody is different.
I just have a feeling he needs to back off. I am sure I am going to be attacked from the 'you didn't do enough' people. This is just my tiny side of the story.
twobells
Gotta ask, where did you come up with that name? |
Tbh I haven't backed 'on' I was just a bastard when she moved in, I have never knocked on her door or contacted her in any way.
'twobells' comes from the handshaking tones that analog modems made when trying to connect, I use it to constantly re-enforce to myself that communication is the only answer.
tb
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| Posted: Wed, 10th Sep 2008 21:10 Post subject: |
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| twobells wrote: | | SpaceWiz wrote: | | Next time you know she's home (and hopefully alone..) just go up and knock on her door and apologize for your behaviour and explain yourself. |
yessum, right away.
tb
following day "um, excuse me Veronica but SpaceWiz ordered me to explain my actions over the last few months and to express my undying love"
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Never said you should express your feelings, just apologize for being an asshole for the past few months. Which seems to be exactly what you did but with a gift instead of doing it verbally.
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| Posted: Wed, 10th Sep 2008 21:22 Post subject: |
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the best advice is , go to her house only with a towel around your waist and say
- hi im your downstairs neighbor , do you mind i use your shower , mine is broken , there ill be only 10 minutes , and see what happens next.
| Sin317 wrote: | | while you can't "turn gay", you can cut off your balls. believe me, you'll never think of women again. |
| zmed wrote: | | Or just a defense mechanism. If you fart, you'll most definitely smell it so your brain tells you it ain't bad as strangerfarts. |
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twobells
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| Posted: Wed, 10th Sep 2008 21:43 Post subject: |
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I just saw her on the street walking with a gf, she is the MOST beautiful girl I have ever seen, and guess what..she gave me the deepest warmest smile that hinted of great depth.
tb
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