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WaldoJ
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 Posted: Sat, 6th Dec 2008 05:53 Post subject: Girl problems. |
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What to do? What to do?
I can risk a solid friendship for a relationship that will get me christmas presents / v-day presents. Or I can risk a relationship for a card on xmas and on vday. I dunno what to do. 
It's hard to say if i like the girl or not. I got a girl right now. Purdy. Fun. Smart. Talkative. But I see her once a while. The girl I'm close friends with i see twice a week. And at the end of each visit we're both piss drunk and act on our innermost fantasies. Which makes me wonder whether or not, it's worth going for her or not. Cause she's drunk half the time.
I dunno if i want any help, i can deal with it myself, I manipulate women left and right just to make my boring life fun, but like, i'm starting to develop feelings for this one girl and it makes me feel bad, that i could end up using her. GAAH!
I'm 23. 
I got a fuck buddy and a 'girl friend' and a girl I go drinking with.
A girl I fuck, a girl i talk to whenever i feel like it, and a best pal.
Should I feel bad? I use three girls, to get the feel of a real relationship. 
+ i'm seeing a shrink.
| Sin317 wrote: | | I win, you lose. Or Go fuck yourself. |
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Dec 2008 06:06 Post subject: |
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if she's a woman , fuck it.
friend , has a boyfriend , married ...etc doesn't matter
BE A MAN
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Dec 2008 06:21 Post subject: |
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| Quote: | | i'm seeing a shrink. |
THANK THE ALMIGHTY AMINO ACID POOLS OF LIFE!!!
Sense Amid Madness, Wit Amidst Folly
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Dec 2008 06:42 Post subject: |
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If a girl is drunk or half pissed you can never trust her feelings, thats one thing I learned the hard way. If she says the same things sober, then you will know what to do.
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Dec 2008 06:58 Post subject: |
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| Pfiemelcheese wrote: | | If a girl is drunk or half pissed you can never trust her feelings, thats one thing I learned the hard way. If she says the same things sober, then you will know what to do. |
That's the thing. Her and I don't want to get into a serious thing for the exact same reasons.
So, I don't know what to do. She the same sober as she is drunk. Bu the reasoning why we can't be together keeps us apart.
Best friend is my best friend for a lot of reasons. I won't date her/ask her out no matter what. Took me a year + to get that status. Risking it, is a bad bad idea.
And the fuck girl, meh. She's smart. Really smart. Really talktative. Fun all around, but she don't want a relationship. She hints at it, but I don't really want a relationship with a girl that I can't say I enjoy fucking. It's like going out on a blind date, fucking her, meeting her 9 months later and marrying her. Y'know. All you have in connection is sex.
| Sin317 wrote: | | I win, you lose. Or Go fuck yourself. |
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Dec 2008 07:01 Post subject: |
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btw I forgot to mention that I tl;dr'ed and god damn it do what I told you that's the end of it
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Dec 2008 07:12 Post subject: |
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There's a difference at being a man at 19, 23 and 34. Y'know. 19 you wanna get laid. 23, you want something decent. 34, you'll take what's there and settle with it.
I'm 23. I suffer from a psychological disorder preventing me from enjoying sex. Long story. Imagine being sexually active for 7+ years and not busting a nut once during intercourse. In any shape/way or form. 40/50 minute long blow jobs are fun and all, but you just wanna watch tv after ten minutes.
I enjoyed my teen years. And my 20s up until 22's. Now there's a girl that I can date for a while and actually enjoy it, but we can't date cause of similar issues. (ex's cluttering the mind) Etc.
It's blah. Girls are after me. Every time I go out on a first date, i end up in a bedroom. It's so fucking annoying. Just fuck, and leave. I remember my old flings, where we'd lay in bed listening to music, reading books to each other, going to restaurant, talking, etc etc etc all that gay shit guys hate. But it's the only thing in relationships that i adored. I loathed sex. Expeshully when you fuck for 2 hours straight and you have to take a break cause she's worn out. Y'know. You feel like a dildo in these things.
Good money in it if you dun care, lotta sluts will wanna fuck you since there's no attachment and they're the only ones who get satisfied. But in a relationship, girls feel so fucking bad when they can't please their man. You guys have no idea. It's fucking scary!!!
| Sin317 wrote: | | I win, you lose. Or Go fuck yourself. |
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Dec 2008 07:16 Post subject: |
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| WaldoJ wrote: | | 34, you'll take what's there and settle with it. |
Yes.
| WaldoJ wrote: |
I'm 23. I suffer from a psychological disorder preventing me from enjoying sex. Long story. |
no long story here , you're just gay and are going against the current, get out of the closet , son. life's too short.
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Dec 2008 07:21 Post subject: |
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| FireMaster wrote: | | no long story here , you're just gay and are going against the current, get out of the closet , son. life's too short. |
I wish. Then again, it could be true. But I love pussy  I love eating it. Smelling it. And watching a girls eyes open wide when you push in too hard. Always make me laugh. I really dunno what i would do if i got gay. I'd pretty much have to start liking cock... which is a scary thought, cause I have no idea how you'd approach something like that. Same with the whole anal thing. I have a problem shitting hot pepper after a subway sandwich. So having something forced in my ass, I don't think I'd enjoy.
I'm dealing with my disorder tho.  Shrinks + pot.  weed enhances your senses. Well physical senses. But I can't fuck everytime I'm high. 40$ a week. That's a lot of money expeshully since i date those anti-drug girls.
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Dec 2008 07:59 Post subject: |
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Keep em both (all) as fuck buddy's....if your not really into her and just like fucking, dont date her. Waste of time and limits you.
Keep as fuck buddy's, plain and simple.
Only get into a relationship with a chick whom you really really like and care about.
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Dec 2008 11:40 Post subject: |
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A) i'm a guy
B) I'm 23
how the heck am i supposed to know who i really like and care about?
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Dec 2008 12:27 Post subject: |
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Which girl makes your cock the hardest, that allways works for me.
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Dec 2008 12:30 Post subject: |
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if that's how i gotta pick, then i know already who to go for.
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Dec 2008 12:48 Post subject: |
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To me the girl that rocks my boat and makes my dick grow hard when she just touches me, thats the one I have the most feelings for, its really simple Waldo cuz it means that girl is in your mind(so it isn't even a sexual thing, its mental).
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Sat, 6th Dec 2008 12:51 Post subject: |
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I get ya. 
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Sun, 7th Dec 2008 05:57 Post subject: |
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| WaldoJ wrote: |
A) i'm a guy
B) I'm 23
how the heck am i supposed to know who i really like and care about? |
My parents got married at 18 and have been together since. Age has nothing to do with emotions once your a) an adult b) mature
Its not hard to determine who you have feelings for. It doesnt mean you have to marry the chick, going out with her is fine and if it turns into marriage a few years from now then fine. Prolly wont but still.
Like, the women you date, you dont have feelings for? Cuz every woman I go out with I have feelings for and care about. Caring about someone doesnt mean you love them. |
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Mon, 8th Dec 2008 04:26 Post subject: |
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For the wrong reasons yes, but thats not what were talking about 
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Mon, 8th Dec 2008 04:29 Post subject: |
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| SycoShaman wrote: | | WaldoJ wrote: |
A) i'm a guy
B) I'm 23
how the heck am i supposed to know who i really like and care about? |
My parents got married at 18 and have been together since. Age has nothing to do with emotions once your a) an adult b) mature
Its not hard to determine who you have feelings for. It doesnt mean you have to marry the chick, going out with her is fine and if it turns into marriage a few years from now then fine. Prolly wont but still.
Like, the women you date, you dont have feelings for? Cuz every woman I go out with I have feelings for and care about. Caring about someone doesnt mean you love them. |
The thing though is... it's hard to see if you have feelings for someone. You know, you go out with them, or you fuck them, or you do something... affection is there. and that plays with your mind. You have a girl you fuck, and then you lay in bed and she cuddles and it feels right at that moment. You have a girl you date. You walk hand in hand, someones shoulder to shoulder, play with each others hair, have long conversations, smile wildly at each other and feels right at that moment. then you have a person who's your best friends in the world... and you actually feel 10X better after talking to that person. Your day just gets better and better the more you're with that person. Again it feels right during that moment.
So it's hard. And age is a huge factor. Ideology on relationships changes every 2/3 years. If you're gonna date someone 2/3 years younger than you, their idea of a relationship is vastly different than yours. 4/6 years.. they're in a different world.
So it does matter. Caring for someone. Wanting them. Age doesn't matter (as long as it's legal) but having a relationship with someone with a totally different experience and a totally different view on things... age does matter. A LOT.
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Mon, 8th Dec 2008 04:58 Post subject: |
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Age has nothing to do with it man. Its the mentallity and maturity of the person.
As for the affection thing...thats why you go out with someone for a while to determine if you really do love em. If you met a girl you liked and immediatly knew it was love, it wouldnt be fun would it?
Thats the whole point of getting into a relationship. You take things slow. And over time either you will have deeper feelings for the person and the relationship will progress or you will lose feelings and break up.
But to determine if you really do love someone, it takes a long time. Because the first year of a relationship is more about infatuation and excitement than feelings...after 2 or 3 years and you still feel the same way or even stronger, then you know you have something.
Like, there is a girl Im in love with. Have been for like 3 years, known her since highschool. But a year ago, she disappeared, dunno how to get ahold of her. If I do see her again, Im gunna tell her how I feel cuz I think about her everyday and just the thought of her makes me happy and I get that tingly feeling and such. And she's always had strong feelings for me (loves me too but when she told me that, i was married). And Im sure she still does...cuz there were times when we wouldnt see each other for months, then we'd chill and I could just see the look in her eye and some things she's said to me that...I know if I see her again, Im gunna tell her how I fee and Im pretty much sure, she will feel the same (im not gunna tell her i love her, just that i really care about her, think about her everyday etc). Then after 6 months of being together, Im gunna tell her the whole story ya know? But if I dont see her again, no problem. Lots of women out there, one of em is bound to be right for me.
Trust me, you'll know what love is when it happens man. And it is possible to love more than one person
Your young so it may not make sense but you will meet a girl eventually that just captivates you. And its not a sexual attraction or whatever, its something you cant explain. Just talking to her will make you feel like a kid on xmas morning. Hell, just looking at her will make you feel like....your in heaven (still not the right term, you have to experience it to know what I mean).
And again, age has nothing to do with it (unless your dating 16 year olds lol).
Lately, Ive been going out with younger women. 24-26 year olds. I wanna have kids and Id prefer that they be biologically mine and I figure if i meet the right woman, it will be 3 years atleast before marriage and then we can have kids. So my whole going out with women older than me wont work.
Dont get me wrong tho, if I meet a woman I end up falling in love with who's older or cant have kids, thats fine, we can always adopt and id love them just the same.
For me, its about the woman. And if I fall in love with a woman who cant have children, thats fine. As long as she loves me as much as i love her, supports me as much as id support her, shows me the same affection I show her etc, things will be good. And if she wants kids, we can adopt...I wouldnt make her go through those painful procedures to try and conceive...thats just mean imo. Adoption is fine. But obviously Id adopt a baby.
And even still, if I found the right woman (with the qualities I mentioned) and we didnt have kids, no biggie. We'd have tons of years together and we'd be in love, happy etc
All and all, Im looking for the right woman...kids...thats here and there. I want them, but if it doesnt happen, no problem. My brother has 2 sons so they will carry on the bloodline ya know?
Its all about the woman...someone who makes me happy, someone who shows me the same affection I show (and Im very affectionate), someone who will support me no matter what (cuz thats what I do) etc.
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Btw, there are 2 women who are like that. One i mentioned in the post and another one...but I dont think the one I didnt mention will ever happen. Sucks. But Im bound to meet someone else who's the same.
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| Posted: Mon, 8th Dec 2008 08:12 Post subject: |
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@syco
I know exactly what you mean about dating younger women who can still have kids, adoption is a huge expense most of the time and often doesn't work out. I hope to hook up with someone older who maybe already has kids so the burden is off me. I have different expectations I guess. Good for you for knowing what you want tho.
@waldo
Sy has some really good points.
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