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 Posted: Tue, 7th Oct 2008 01:46 Post subject: why life hates some people... |
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so, my gf had a father (obvious...) and he died two years ago from lung cancer (never smoked in his life), so half a year later her mom gets fucking breast cancer but kinda fought it off.
so end of last year the cancer's back, she goes ahead gets the chemo treatment and all that shit and stuff looks good, tumor not growing anymore, she really looked healthy (note, i only now her since january, that's when i met my gf)
then, last week, she kinda got a bit "confused" but we thought it was because she didn't eat so well and therefore didn't take her pain meds (she only takes them when she has eaten, otherwise she's gonna throw up)
so thursday she went to the hospital for her chemo treatment and they're like "hmmm, we're gonna do some tests on monday"
so my gf thinks she's better, she eats, takes her pain meds and isn't in that "confused" state anymore.
monday comes they do their tests (mrt or ct not sure which one)
well, tests come back and well, she's got a metastasis in her brain. (or at least one)
so, my gf hasn't spoken to a doc today because those lazy fucks kinda all seem to leave early, so she knows about the metastasis from her mother (but we all know a patient isn't the best source of info about a disease)
my girlfriends been crying her eyes out the whole day, walking up and down the walls, not kowing what to do or knowing anything at all.
tomorrow she won't get to see a doc as well because for that she'd have to leave work early but she can't because she's gotta do something at her work nobody else is qualified to do and they can't push it back
her boss knows about her mom and he would have respected her need for a day off but like i said, nobody but her can do that thing (don't ask me what, i already forgot...)
come wednesday we get to know some more.
why does life, karma, fate, god or whatever or whoever you want to believe in hate some people so much?
damn, there's only so much suffering somebody can take (seeing as her father's death has turned her brother in a somewhat apathetic slob, i kinda think he already had to much and his mother's death will completly put him other the edge to god knows what / where)
sorry for the block of text and ranting but this really gets me, some part of me is sad and another part is angry but most of all, i feel fucking helpless, there's just nothing i can do for my girlfriend except being there for her and it just feels like that isn't enough, like i could do more (although i know there isn't...)
wooh, ok, this kinda helped a little. thanks for reading
if somebody had the stomach to completely read it 
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Cohen
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| Posted: Tue, 7th Oct 2008 02:20 Post subject: |
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man, just stick by her.
"things get severe for everybody, everywhere"
- Gangstarrr
It will bring you guys close, and you will mean more to her than anyone on earth ever could. You cant make that shit happen.
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deelix
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| Posted: Tue, 7th Oct 2008 08:08 Post subject: |
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Same with the mother of a friend of mine. Cancer sucks :\
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| Posted: Tue, 7th Oct 2008 10:45 Post subject: |
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Sorry to hear Rek. Hope things work out for you and I know how you feel. Lost a few family members to cancer.
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| Posted: Tue, 7th Oct 2008 11:24 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Tue, 7th Oct 2008 11:31 Post subject: |
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I feel for you Reklis, every disease is horrible thing, and no one should have to experience what your girl is going through. All the sickness and natural disasters are here to ensure the survival of the fittest. That doesn't mean you shouldn't procreate with her (I think that's bs), but the genes are passed on. My grandma died of throat cancer, and that's the main reason I don't smoke, and try to take care of me. Life just sucks, and I don't think anyone knows the answer to question why it does...
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| Posted: Tue, 7th Oct 2008 14:38 Post subject: |
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Be there for her Reklis.
And yes, life have ups and downs.
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| Posted: Tue, 7th Oct 2008 20:10 Post subject: |
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I hope all works fine for you and your gf...
"Quantum mechanics is actually, contrary to it's reputation, unbeliveably simple, once you take the physics out."
Scott Aaronson | chiv wrote: | | thats true you know. newton didnt discover gravity. the apple told him about it, and then he killed it. the core was never found. |
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| Posted: Thu, 9th Oct 2008 13:54 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Thu, 9th Oct 2008 13:55 Post subject: |
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| Jenni wrote: | | I lost my dad to cancer. |
wow that is bad
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| Posted: Thu, 9th Oct 2008 15:23 Post subject: |
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I'm sorry to hear this... Hope everything will be allright
I also know the story ... My mother got breast cancer when i was six years old
She got cured but lost a breast.
After 1 year being cured she got lungcancer.
After 2 years fighting she was again prognosed ad cured.
2 Years later she got braincancer and with it bone cancer.
She died when i was just 14 years old.
Cancer left me also a scar for life , and it didnt even hit me (yet)
Empty again 
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| Posted: Thu, 9th Oct 2008 16:45 Post subject: |
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my grandmother died from liver cancer that had spread from her lungs. she was a lifelong smoker.
my uncle is currently dying from lung cancer that has already spread all over his body. he has been a lifelong smoker.
cigarettes = ftl.
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nouseforaname
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| Posted: Thu, 9th Oct 2008 17:03 Post subject: |
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^^ addiction to nicotine.
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| Posted: Thu, 9th Oct 2008 17:17 Post subject: |
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i know, but the taste of the first try put me off for life. I dnno how anyone can like that shit long enough to get hooked.
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| Posted: Thu, 9th Oct 2008 17:59 Post subject: |
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| nouseforaname wrote: | my grandmother died from liver cancer that had spread from her lungs. she was a lifelong smoker.
my uncle is currently dying from lung cancer that has already spread all over his body. he has been a lifelong smoker.
cigarettes = ftl. |
well it's consequence of smoking, but if u have lung cancer while never smoking in your life it does have to do with your blood, means anyone in your family can have all kinda same or different type of cancer in the future
my grandfather also was hard smoker[2 pacs a day regulary] and died from lung cancer, but he also drinked a lot
if anyone intend to have kids make sure u do background check about your gf or yourself, coz making babies that will suffer is just cruel and pointless
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| kaeye wrote: | | i know, but the taste of the first try put me off for life. I dnno how anyone can like that shit long enough to get hooked. |
try to smoke some weed. Not to much tabacco tho.
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| Posted: Thu, 9th Oct 2008 18:02 Post subject: |
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watching someone die from cancer is hard. I've never seen a grown man cry and beg for death until this month :/
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| Posted: Thu, 9th Oct 2008 18:36 Post subject: |
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my grandfather also said hed rather die than be in all the suffering he was feeling towards his last days.
cant imagine it really. Yet even still, he was still himself and kept his dignity/sincerity about it.
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| Posted: Thu, 9th Oct 2008 20:33 Post subject: |
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People who are being hated by their life should cheat it and commit suicide.
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| Posted: Thu, 9th Oct 2008 22:04 Post subject: |
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Watching someone deteriorate because of Cancer is the single, most harrowing thing I have ever had to deal with.
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| Posted: Fri, 10th Oct 2008 01:41 Post subject: |
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Sorry to hear Reklis
One thing I can relate to is that it is hard to help her because she is the one who is seeing the doctors and getting the information for them. None of my family members come back with the right information. The doctor talks and they hear something completely different. I had to deal with this with my inlaws but that I can understand because english is their 3rd lang. My parents do the same thing even tho english is their first lang.
My fatherinlaw had a brain tumor removed and he just quit taking his meds suddenly on his own because he thought it was going to damage his liver??? He could of went into shock or had a grand mal and smashed his head open. They still see you as a kid so they don't listen. I would print things from the net and give it to them. That I though would sink in more.
Her not eating is probably because she is depressed and the chemo can do that as well. It is a type of Anorexia which can be caused by medical conditions. The only thing you can do is try to have a family member go into the doctors with her. Have her write questions ahead of time so she doesn't miss a important question. You can't control them either because it is important that they feel that they have some type of control over their health. Also there are some meal replacements drinks that can boost daily calories. One is called "boost" the hospitals here use it. It is liquid, not greasy, easy on the stomach so she might find it works.
It is always sad when bad things happen to good people
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| Posted: Fri, 10th Oct 2008 01:52 Post subject: |
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nah, her not eating was probably something with the weather, and she's not depressed either, she really is a lively woman, really fun to talk to.
of course she loses weight every once in a while but that is the chemo doing.
apparently the chemo stressed out her kidneys, which in turn caused the high calcium level, so they decided to insert a catheter (which she has to keep for the next 6 months, sucks) to ease "stuff" down there.
and first thing she did was ask my gf to go buy her a nice little bag with a flower print on it for the catheter-bag 
this woman is awesome, never seen somebody so strong willed, really impresses me, i told her that once 
btw. pistol, i'm not sure if you read all replies (at least those by me ^^)
but again, thing's aren't as grim as they looked in the beginning
so i'll keep my fingers crossed
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) in her brain all very small and all located so that the ray treatment can reach them good.
it tastes horrid, I had one once and It tasted so bad I felt sick, never touched one again
