Do nice stuff for people, remember their habits/tastes, help them and when I ask for something small or a tiny favor and what do I get ?? NOTHING. Wow, really?? How come you all come to me at your time of need and I always help you out etc but when I have something small you all never even help me out?? I sincerely never expect anything from anyone but the least they can do is help... no, nothing. So am I fool to do all this? I feel horrible and used.
Wow, even my family lets me down here. I remember their likes, dislikes, everything and they can never even do something nice or surprise me. I always get/do stuff that pleases them but they can never do anything for me. This has bothered me for quite a while now but the final straw was that right now I am totally busy with reports and told my sister to get something from the market for me. But when she returns she's like "Oh I forgot, you should have called me" ... WTF ??? Did I tell you this 100 days back??? Screw you if you can't even remember this. And not just her, pretty much my entire family forgets stuff and I always have to get it myself. On the rare occasion that they do get it, they never stop reminding me of it and go on and on....
I've completely lost all hope to expect anything at all from people. What needs to change?? Me?
what geordieracer said. but don't lose hope in all the people out there - just because you're surrounded by asswipes doesn't mean erveryone out there is one
After 2 years of work i learned the following lessons
1) If you don't do it, nothing happens
2) People are generally lazy
3) People take credit for your work all the time
4) You help people, they never help you
Major conclusion: Being an asshole only is a disadvantage in school, too bad they should be the place to prepare you for the real world...
You're all right..... just need to accept the real world for what it is. Oh, and I'll welcome any kindness or good people as a blessing. For every "bad" person there must be a "good" one
Just dont bend over and take it up the ass every time they want something from you, atleast now when you know how they act when you ask them of something.
Say you are busy, need to do something else or just make up an excuse to skip it. They do it all the time so why shouldnt you. Its not about who is the "bad" person here its just that you are beeing as fair as they are towards you. Show them alittle of what you get everytime you need some help with something.
tell everyone to go fuck themselves when u are being asked for a favor ever again.
+1
I have also find out that being nice to others means that you'll just be used :\ So my new policy is: I don't give a fuck... It's kinda hard at the beginning, but afterward you really don't give a fuck
Lol op, i feel ya. About two weeks ago i started repairing my house. My family and all my friends are working in constructions, so i thought, hey, this is gonna be so easy. Guess what. Apparently they dont even have time for instructions!! or advices!! and i'm left alone, with youtube videos, like to figure it out on my own !! FFS !! And i've always helped everyone (with their PCs of course, what else?) Soooo yeah
kazemaky wrote:
tell everyone to go fuck themselves when u are being asked for a favor ever again.
Do you guys really think that giving people the finger the next time they ask for help will solve the problem? Yes, people who are insensitive pricks will suddenly realise the error or their ways and there will be apologies and hugs all around. I don't know how you could solve this problem but I do know that THAT is not the solution.
@yuri999 Hmm I would say try to surround yourself with positive people, that is not easy but it is up to you who your friends are and who your acquaintances are.
Unfortunately you can't chose your family, so there I suggest something else.
Create a list, writing down when you were helpful and when they were not, be honest with that.
And if it shows they are an egoistic bunch, confront them with that and if that still does not help just do the same as they do and make up all kind of excuses if they ask you something.
Something else if people see you as someone who is easily manipulated in doing something they will abuse that, even if you just try to be friendly and helpful.
Solution: Stay friendly but become less helpful.
There are a lot of pricks at work, so don't punish yourself with lame-ass friends.
Just make a white list and a black list. People fucking up go to the black list, your very good friends go to the white list. Invest time and emo shit in your white list people (keep the list short though) and just completely ignore your black list people.
A lot of people i know (mostly girls though) get sad and disappointed/angry with lame-ass semi-friends they invest time in and - surprise surprise - backstab them. Just keep it simple, some people have a scale from 0 to 10 when it comes to friends. which is pretty stupid, because a friend is binary thing. You either are an emotional trashbin (people that only whine whine whine when they have a shitty period, but never fun), a slave (people who only know you when they need something done) or a friend (you see each other in happy and shitty periods). I guess you know what category you should go for
So you can be an asshole @ your job and have a safe haven at home and no worries.
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I don't know how you could solve this problem but I do know that THAT is not the solution.
