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 Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 00:36 Post subject: Might dip out as best man - will i be an asshole friend? |
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Ok my "best" friend is getting married in Oct. He has asked me to be his best man and I don't know why but I agreed. Now I wish I hadn't. I've been growing my hair out since this past Oct. My "best" friend sees me yesterday and says "you gotta get that shit cut" in a direct and orderly manner. I tell him I am not cutting my fucking hair, period. The way he demanded that I cut my hair, for his wedding that is still 4 months away, pissed me off to be honest. This is the first time i've seen him in 6 months and we've probably talked that many times in the last year as well. He repeats later that his fiance' is going to tell me to get a haircut... as if I march to the beat of that bitch's drums! I hate a pussy whipped asshole. Keep ya balls between your legs and not in your girl's purse.
I have best in quotations because we WERE best friends growing up. We also spent a large portion of our young adulthood playing Quake 2 and Starcraft. In the last 11 years i've hardly seen him tho - we rarely talk and I mean rarely. Maybe once every 3 months or an email here and there.
I'm just a bit miffed that i'm told "you gotta cut that shit" to be in his weddding... who the fuck do they think they are? I mean seriously if I had hair sticking every which fucking way I could see them being a bit upset and not wanting a wooley booger in their wedding photos but it really doesn't look that bad. If we're such special friends that i'm to be his best man at his wedding then shouldn't I be accepted either way? You know when he was in my wedding I didn't put a single stipulation on anything, other than we all wear the same tux. That was all I asked. Someone's hair style or length hardly crossed my mind. I mean shit my groomsmen coulda had flock of seagull haircuts and I wouldn't have given a shit. If they're your friends you accept them as is, correct?
Let me clarify before the posting begins - I do not look like a grizzled old man from a log cabin. I've trimmed my hair a little here and there in the past 7 months. I realize you are supposed to "presentable" for an occasion like this but just because they disapprove of my hair (used to short hair styles) doesn't mean my hair is a mess and unpresentable.
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 00:38 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 00:57 Post subject: |
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Are you a fucking woman? You're gonna pussy out on a friend over an argument over hair????????
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 00:57 Post subject: |
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They've no right to ask that - ridiculous really that they even suggested it.
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nouseforaname
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 02:17 Post subject: |
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| tainted4ever wrote: | | Are you a fucking woman? You're gonna pussy out on a friend over an argument over hair???????? |
No, there's a little more to it... re-read if all you got out of it was that. The point is does my supposed best friend want me or my hair at his wedding? Its just long its not an unkept rats nest.
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Ronhrin
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 02:21 Post subject: |
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| killabyte wrote: | | tainted4ever wrote: | | Are you a fucking woman? You're gonna pussy out on a friend over an argument over hair???????? |
No, there's a little more to it... re-read if all you got out of it was that. The point is does my supposed best friend want me or my hair at his wedding? Its just long its not an unkept rats nest. |
Your hair is part of you and who you are, if your best friend requires you to change some clearly important aspect of who you are in order to present you socially to his new social group, then your relation of friendship is certainly not reciprocal, since he doesn't respect you for what you are and for what it's important for yourself!
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 03:56 Post subject: |
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- Pics of OP and his hair
- Cut your fucking hair you pussy.. yes u will be a asshole friend if you ditch a wedding over ur girly hair
- Its his wedding.. he can say what he wants
- Pee in bridesmaids butts
But yes.. pics so we can judge
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 04:30 Post subject: |
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You'll be a dick if you skip out. It's a big day. Ditching out, you gonna lose a friend and then you'll blame his wife when it's your fault. Suck it up and clean up. Seriously. No need losing a 'best friend' over it. I cleaned up for the weddings i went to. It's the thing to do. It's the respectful thing to do.
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 05:57 Post subject: |
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Well, from what you said it is obvious you are not really friends any more. I mean why would he even ask a person he only writes an email every three months to be his best man? Doesn't he have people who are closer?
If you really want to compromise for some reason - can't you just gell the shit down for one day?
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 09:42 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 09:54 Post subject: |
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fuck her in teh butt 
Smile if you're gay 
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 10:09 Post subject: |
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| -=Cartoon=- wrote: | | - Its his wedding.. he can say what he wants |
It's a shitty thing that he asked you to do this, and I don't understand his reasons, but it obviously bothers him for some reason. And like Cartoon said, it is his wedding after all.
If there is one situation where he has the right to ask you to clean up, this is probably it.
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 11:00 Post subject: |
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Keep your hair. Its not he who get to decide the length of your hair. He asked you to be his bestman - not to marry him.
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 11:08 Post subject: |
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Shave your balls and show up at the wedding just like that, if he asks why you didnt cut that shit show him your bald sack.
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 12:01 Post subject: |
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It's an honor to be best man.
If he's really your friend, you talk to him about this shit and not us. If he won't understand why you want to keep your hair, then he sounds more like a dousche.
If he's not your friend, then why are we even talking about it?
Yes, yes I'm back.
Somewhat.
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 12:45 Post subject: |
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Even if it's his wedding he has no right to make u cut your hair short. He wanted u there as the best man and should take u as u are. One thing is looking presentable and another is changing a defining part of yourself.
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 13:14 Post subject: |
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| killabyte wrote: |
To sum things up for me I'm pretty antisocial. I hate people in general and any social gathering. I despise having my picture taken and I hate weddings a great deal too. I'm not the right man for this job and my main concern is that he have a good experience. I would hate to have him forever pissed at me for bailing out but if it came to that I could handle it. As I said we're not that close anymore. I feel I have his best interests in mind because I know me and I know how I get when I'm in a situation like that for an extended period of time. Am I full of shit guys? |
I'm pretty sure your hair DO look like shit from reading that first part. You sit infront of your computer most of the time, dont really go to gatherings of any kind - and you probably dont get any feedback on your hair other than this time your friend told you to fucking cut that shit.
Its not like a random person on the street is gonna stop you and go all "OH MAN, GOTTA CUT DEM LADYLOCKS BREEEEEE" so you will wander around, looking yourself in the mirror and thinking "DAYUM IM FINE" when in reality you have the most hideous hair in town.
I dont mean to offend you in any way, but without pictures one can only assume for himself. Good luck
TL;DR
Cut your hair and go to his wedding, you are only looking for excuses to avoid people
It's not like hes asking you to kill a newborn baby, it will grow back again
Squirrely: Now come on y'all. We can't waste time arguing. There could still be survivors out there. We need to hunt them down, and kill them.
Beary: How about we kill them, and then rape their bodies so we can use their blood as lubricant.
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ixigia
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 13:29 Post subject: |
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Just be yourself and tell him to deal with it or gtfo 
Seriously, the whole story depends on the real "level of presentability" of your hair (P.S. we demand pics  ), but his request sounds extremely ridiculous (and wrong) to me.
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 13:31 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 13:38 Post subject: |
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| garus wrote: | It could have been worse. He could have said: "grow a meter long hair in 4 months!"  |
That would be easy http://www.actonecostumes.net/bemusiandse.html , just choose the Wizard Style |
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| Posted: Thu, 2nd Jun 2011 13:59 Post subject: |
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I wouldn't cut my hair for anyone. I have had it for over 10years probably. As far as I get it, you aren't best buddies anymore. If I was you I would tell him that I will not cut it, and not to listen to his wife blindly. Long hair can be put in a tail, and it's presentable enough for official occasions. And I'd remember this grudge towards his wife for a very long time, and think of her as a bitch.
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