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 Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 21:54 Post subject: |
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^What Waldo says about internet dating girls is 100% true. I haven't dated any girls online, but I have friends who do actively, and your story jives with theirs 
If you want to play this girl hard, hang out with some of your female friends, take pics of all of you being happy together, then post them on Facebook. Then when Gina sees them she will text you shit. Give her terse replies for like 2 weeks. Then become all emotional for a week. Then give her terse replies again for another 2 weeks.
The idea is to be:
emotionally distant---->emotional---->emotionally distant---->emotional.
It will put the chick on an emotional rollercoaster and really fuck with her head. Then you can do whatever you want with her
But hey, if you want to be a NICE GUY and if you actually LOVE THIS GIRL then you really shouldn't do anything that I said. Just follow Waldo's advice. Lay your cards on the table, see what happens, and play it by the ear from there Oh and try to get chicks irl. Internet dating is a royal PITA, as I am sure you are starting to realize right now 
tl;dr
fuck her in teh butt
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ixigia
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 22:47 Post subject: |
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Damn 
| timechange01 wrote: | | Whenver I would get annoyed that shes going through my texts and phone I would ask what her problem was and she would always say that she was cheated on for 9 months in her previous relationship and she doesnt want to get fucked over again. And she would constantly bitch about nina (that nude best friend from the amateur thread) sending me naked pics on my phone. And she would always always say things like "i know youre gonna leave me one day for nina, shes better than me, why wouldnt you leave me? I would" |
Maybe I'm wrong but I think that this could be a quite important factor, that could have contributed somehow. I'm not referring to jealousy, but to the fact that she's...terribly afraid to experience the same huge disappointment again (even if you're already explained to her that it's not gonna happen), and in order to avoid that she's doing what her -not very rational- mind is telling her to do: run away. That would explain why she still loves you and yet can't see you. I would talk to her, being completely honest about everything.
I know for sure that if a girl that I'm in relationship with saw those pics on my phone she would go batshit angry in a couple of nanoseconds, but not everyone reacts the same way 
But then again, I'm the worst adviser ever when it comes to love problems so you can ignore the above and just read that I'm sorry.. and I wish you good luck!
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 23:13 Post subject: |
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Right after the break up, I visited nina and told her what happened and I was honestly feeling fine. Because during most of the relationship I always figured this is just temporary and I will eventually get another girl. And so nina saw that I wasn't really that upset and kept telling me things like now I can start dating again sleeping with other girls which is fun.
However, it was later that night after gina left me that I realized how much I REALLY truly care about this girl. Its not about looks at all at this point and I never thought this would happen. Im just an average shallow guy so I didn't see this coming. If I had the chance to be with the hottest girl or with Gina, I would pick Gina. So yesterday was pretty much hell and Gina refused to see me in person but I spoke to nina on the phone today and she can tell that I definitely dont want any other girl. I have no desire to date or fuck other girls. So she suggested that I just give Gina the time she needs instead of rushing anything. So thats what I did:
So there is still a slight chance I may get her back
You never truly appreciate what you have until its gone. Thats the lesson I learned here. Hopefully I get a second chance next week
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 02:23 Post subject: |
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Nevermind she changed her mind. She never wants to see me again. I guess I just gotta somehow get past this
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 02:38 Post subject: |
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| timechange01 wrote: | | Nevermind she changed her mind. She never wants to see me again. I guess I just gotta somehow get past this |
Wow, really? Did she flat out say she never wanted to see you again? That seems pretty fucking harsh man, jeez...
If you don't mind me asking, how old are both of you?
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 02:46 Post subject: |
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I just dont fucking get it. If she truly loved me or care about me, how could she not give a shit and hurt me like this. She flat out said the following:
"You need to stop. We aren't getting back together. Its best for you to move on."
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 03:08 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 03:31 Post subject: |
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to me she seems like a person that never has been loved and tries to fight that "high" but cant find it, the crush part of love is as close as it gets for her. So i believe once the crush is over the ordinary love isnt good enough for her, she realizes that besides hot sex true love is just "boring" talking and spending time which isnt what she expects from it. just my 2 cents.
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 04:35 Post subject: |
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You know what? fuck this bitch. Im not sad anymore, Im just mad. She had her friend call me and curse me out....who the fuck does that? Are we in high school now? I did nothing to her or her friend. I can easily get another girl, I just wanted to wait because I thought gina was special. Shes apparently nothing but a lying piece of shit. Definitely not special, definitely not worth any wait
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 04:59 Post subject: |
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glad you realize that, take it as a lesson for life.
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 05:09 Post subject: |
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ok here's the thing. she thinks she trouble. she cares for you but doesn't want to hurt you. she thinks that's the best way to handle things. chances are she's fucking someone else on the side.  and she's trying to distance herself from you w/o hurting you.
If you're sure about the whole fuck this bitch attitude. then good. she gonna txt you once a while. she gonna pull on your heart strings and then yank shit out. is gonna be lol. best bet for you, if you do wanna be all fuck this bitch, text her and say if you don't ever want to see me again, fine. i'll be deleting your number and don't contact me again.
then remove her from facebook. and move the fuck on.
trust me. internet girls are not worth the trouble. sex isn't all a relationship is about. no point getting emotional over someone you spent 3 months with.
Tl:DR - cut ties with her and cut them sharply... be a dick. remove her from facebook. remove her number. clear the texts she sent you. She will text you later... but treat it as harassment and tell her she's poison and you don't want anything to do with her.
| Sin317 wrote: | | I win, you lose. Or Go fuck yourself. |
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 05:23 Post subject: |
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Nah I flat out asked her is there another guy and she was just being painfully truthful about things but said there was no other guy but that she just didn't feel a connection with me and there is no chance of us ever being together. She did feel it once but then it was gone. And apparently the feeling came and went. Whatever, I lost faith in all people after this incident.
How can somebody stoop so low. Its hard to understand but I no longer want to understand it. I just need to forget this shit
We were together for 2 months. Im definitely never texting her again. This whole event is definitely going to change me in some way
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 05:32 Post subject: |
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lol you do know that's what they all say? Before you know... her facebook status will change to a new boy 
You tell her you don't want to have any contact with her. That you moved on. Delete her from facebook. Do it sam. DO IT FOR THE HUMP! and most importantly you need to close it.
| Sin317 wrote: | | I win, you lose. Or Go fuck yourself. |
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 07:15 Post subject: |
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I hope things work out for the best.
I kinda go with the Saint. She sounds depressed and borderline personality.
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 08:15 Post subject: |
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I have accepted the fact that I can never be with this girl ever again. The reason no longer matters, its pointless. But I have forgave her and would like to still keep her in my life. It would be wrong to just cut her out because she was more than just a girl I fucked. I really truly cared for her deeply. This basically what happened:
And the call from her friend, that was just her stupid bitchy friend being an asshole because I made gina cry apparently. That call was not gina's idea. So yea thats pretty much the end of it. We will remain friends and then meet one day in the far future when IM ready because Im definitely not. I haven't felt this emotionally fucked up since 2009 lol I remember like a year or two ago I made a thread here about how mundane my life had become and I no longer felt anything anymore. Well this year was definitely one hell of an emotional rollercoaster ride so far
@Waldo: Shes not that type of girl. Not at all. Ive spent almost every hour with her the past 2 months. She basically lived in my room with me. She is definitely not that type of girl. There is good inside her, I still believe it
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 08:32 Post subject: |
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Reading this brings back so many painful memories. I wanted to tell you to stop being a wuss and stop talking to this manipulative girl but its hard. When you've tasted love and then when its suddenly dragged from under your feet with nothing but the memories to haunt you.
Still that whole text message debacle could and should've been handled alot better. You did good at first when you told her off but then went back on your word and apologized, for what exactly? If you had any slim, minimum chance of getting back with her its that more difficult now.
Its really fucking hard, just lock yourself in your house and have a weekend where you grief her, watch movies, eat alot of snacks, play videogames and just let her go. Pleanty of fish in the sea, and I talk from experience if you've read my previous threads concerning dating and all the mess that comes with it.
Dont mess with God, he can impregnate your girlfriend/wife without taking his pants off!
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 08:57 Post subject: |
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Im definitely not locking myself at home. The past 2 days were a nightmare because I was home alone. I always feel better when Im out with friends so I will make sure I go outside daily starting today (friday). I apologized because I didn't want to completely lose her. It wasnt all about the sex, I enjoyed her company and talking to her. As friends, maybe we can have at least those few things back
Also Waldo, I cant delete her from facebook. I was so broken up over this I deactivated my account (for the first time ever) yesterday because seeing her wall posts brought back memories.
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 09:42 Post subject: |
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I might be a bit older than you and have some more experience. I was in the same place as you a few years ago and after reading your -sorry for this- emotional rambling I must say you fucked up and burned all the bridges. I did the same.
You have to learn how to let go. It might be hard especially in the early stages of relationship. But you won't be friends, ever. She has made her mind about you and you cemented it with that talk. Don't try to please her now, talk to her and squirm under her feet, you will just make things worse. You will show yourself as weak and obsessive. Woman don't like such man.
Stop debasing yourself as a man.
Give it a rest, go out with friends, play games, fap - manage your free time so you won't have it. If she won't speak to you in that time - it's over, deal with it. Find someone else. Just don't waste your time and dignity anymore.
And learn your lesson.
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 11:22 Post subject: |
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Drop it and move on, learn from it.
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 14:35 Post subject: |
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i know i shouldnt laugh but holy shit this thread
IM READY TO BE WITH YOU ROMEO, TAKE MY HAND AND FREE ME!
actually FUCK YOU ASSHOLE ITS ALL YOUR FAULT
just kidding I LOVE YOU
ILL PUT MY DICK IN THE OWL
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fisk
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 14:52 Post subject: |
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I dunno man, you seem desperate in some sense.
Everything is so serious (apparently). Drama drama.
You both seem to be choking eachother's sense of freedom.
That's an awesome way to end something.
Yes, yes I'm back.
Somewhat.
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 15:12 Post subject: |
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I don't want to be rude, or offensive, and I am sympathetic - it hurts when that happens, it even happened to me 2 years ago - me and my buddy think the chick has some issues.
BUT could you upload some more pix from Nina please? 
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 16:45 Post subject: |
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TC is an hopeless romantic :/
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 17:09 Post subject: |
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And we're a dying breed..
| Lutzifer wrote: | | and yes, mine is only average |
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 17:16 Post subject: |
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| timechange01 wrote: |
Also Waldo, I cant delete her from facebook. I was so broken up over this I deactivated my account (for the first time ever) yesterday because seeing her wall posts brought back memories. |
Talk about shooting a fly with a cannon!
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Mar 2013 17:29 Post subject: |
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if it was me I'd already be fucking another hoe
I wouldn't even remember her name.
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