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SycoShaman
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| pistolshrimp wrote: | | kumkss wrote: | | SycoShaman wrote: |
Most of the time the way it looks, is the way it is. |
best frase ever!!  |
There is a little voice inside you but you can't let it rule your life.
Hello! Death thing.
I am surprised nobody has taken that into consideration. All I am saying is his little world is off its axis ATM. Don't you think that is going to influence his perception of events. He should put some kind of key logger on the computer.
@syco
Women and men are both devious differently. You probably don't notice as to when the guys are doing it because you are one, and because you have been burned by your ex. Guys lie to get sex all the time. Promise all sorts of shit. Maybe I have no idea what I am talking about. I guess women have to resort to sneaker means to get what they want because they don't have the physical strength so they overcompensate. Women are definitely cut throat to one another.
I guess I just like to stay away from the labelling. Yes, you will always judge people to some degree, because you have to protect yourself. Creating all these assumptions about people just limits you and the experiences you are going to have in your life. |
I know there are honest women out there. They are just rare and when a woman acts like she's cheating, 9 times outta 10 she is. |
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Grees
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roCcor
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jun 2006 10:49 Post subject: |
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I just checked her mobile.. This guy wrote her a sms
while she was away, asking how she was doin' and if I was
around. So at least she told him 'bout me.
She under the shower.. Today I'm gonna ask her if he
is still contacting her and how she's handling it and that
I have bad feelings 'bout her having contact with him.
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spankie
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jun 2006 11:47 Post subject: |
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hmm, looks like you might have overreacted  good for you.
I have been in the same situation as you lately. She was seeing her ex, not telling her ex that i was the new boyfriend etc. We were having sex, i saw her every day. But she kept telling me that we were just friends, that she was not ready for a new relationship.Although she took the first steps to have sex...
One day i became pissed because she didnt aknowledge me when friends of her were present. She always told me that i couldnt show them that we were together.But when i became pissed, she was happy that i cared about it. Now she doesnt see him anymore. She told me that she was afraid to get hurt again and that she kept the option open to go back to her ex. Once i became pissed she saw that i really cared about her and that i wasnt only seeing her for the sex. And i kept pushing to have something serious. And finally she told everyone that we were together. And why she did it all? She said "im damaged goods, i dont trust men anymore, unless they do strange stuff to proof me that they love me". Women are weird man  sometimes they fuck around with you, only to check if you love them. 
Just become pissed and see what she says. Maybe she wants you to be more jaelous, or show more that you love her, or whatever, i dunno
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jun 2006 11:52 Post subject: |
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Grees
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jun 2006 12:00 Post subject: |
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| roCcor wrote: | I just checked her mobile.. This guy wrote her a sms
while she was away, asking how she was doin' and if I was
around. So at least she told him 'bout me.
She under the shower.. Today I'm gonna ask her if he
is still contacting her and how she's handling it and that
I have bad feelings 'bout her having contact with him. |
I have a bad feeling about it too, why would he asks if you was around other then setting things up so he can discuss things behind your back.
Don't let your guard down, keep both your eyes and ears on your girl.
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jun 2006 12:18 Post subject: |
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| pistolshrimp wrote: | | I guess women have to resort to sneaker means to get what they want because they don't have the physical strength so they overcompensate.. |
thats the biggest bullshit ever. its not like men use physical strength to get what they want, if they do they end up in jail |
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jun 2006 14:26 Post subject: |
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@rocCor
you live together right? Is this whats preventing you from easily finishing it?
sit yourselves down in a quiet room and tell her that the trust has gone. tell her that u think u should have an open relationship and see who u want. This way, u can live together for a few months while u sort out new lodgings. If the flat is yours then perhaps she's using u.
if you're a good looking guy then why not start seeing ppl behind her back. Just remember not to invest too much in your current gf.
personally i think u need a good night out on the razz.
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roCcor
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jun 2006 15:49 Post subject: |
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I just talked to her and told her that I'm little worried
'bout her ex calling all the time etc and that I don't
feel comfortable that way.
I asked her if they meet/phone often.. And she told
me right away that they have some chats on the phone.
Furthermore he's in a relationship as well and most of
the time he calls he is pissed (by pissed I mean both in
this case: drunk and angry) and tells her stuff about
his relationship and shit. She wanted me not to worry.
After that I reread her mails and checked her phone
for sms/callregister and I found out that she said the truth.
Most of the time it's him starting conversation via mail.
She NEVER wrote sms/mail on her own will.
By browsing through her callregister I found out
that she actually never called him. It's always him
calling her.
I know her for some time now and it would match
her type of character to feel sorry for some ex
and care of him when he's down 'cause of his
current gf or anything else.
Anyhow.. I'll keep an eye on both of them and
won't tell her that I know her logins for mail etc..
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deelix
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roCcor
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jun 2006 16:07 Post subject: |
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Still it sucks that there's some guy who
won't stop calling her to use her like an
agony aunt + the desperate hope to get to
fuck her..
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deelix
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roCcor
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jun 2006 16:50 Post subject: |
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one from your gf to spy on you i bet
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roCcor
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spankie
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roCcor
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jun 2006 17:26 Post subject: |
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| JeanPerrier wrote: | | pistolshrimp wrote: | | I guess women have to resort to sneaker means to get what they want because they don't have the physical strength so they overcompensate.. |
thats the biggest bullshit ever. its not like men use physical strength to get what they want, if they do they end up in jail |
Ever heard of intimidation? Besides that, how much domestic violence goes unreported?
But I see what you're saying, any respectable man would never use physicality to gain the upper hand in a relationship.
I know we're also referring almost exclusively to western countries, but in many other nations men use physical violence to get what they want all the time.
"Techniclly speaking, Beta-Manboi didnt inject Burberry_Massi with Benz, he injected him with liquid that had air bubbles in it, which caused benz." - House M.D
"Faith without logic is the same as knowledge without understanding; meaningless"
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jun 2006 17:33 Post subject: |
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U know what u should do. email him faking your gf that u wanna meet and up for coffee or someshit. Then when u meet up bash the living shit outta him and tell him if calls her again u threaten to kick the living shit outta him again. This will work =)
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roCcor
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kumkss
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jun 2006 18:09 Post subject: |
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| fXK wrote: | | U know what u should do. email him faking your gf that u wanna meet and up for coffee or someshit. Then when u meet up bash the living shit outta him and tell him if calls her again u threaten to kick the living shit outta him again. This will work =) |
u really think? i disagree. best solution would be that she talk to the ex and makes things clear. i've personaly never met a guy and spoke to him that he must stop with his psychological nonsense. i always prefer things to go their natural path. of course talking to her and make the feelings clear, that you don't like her to have any more contact with his ex, because, is his ex, and that makes bad feelings in you, and you can't live a good and proper life with those feelings in your head.
after all, what the girl finaly do by herself is a demostration of how good as a person she is and if she really loves you the way to stay with that person for the rest of your live or at least, part of it. if you don't want to stay for too long with her, well, then she can do what she wants, and you don't have to bother about what she really feels, but make this situation clear to her. otherwise, you would have the same right to mantain and gain new relations, even if no sex is involved... just to know another possible relation.
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jun 2006 22:39 Post subject: |
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| JeanPerrier wrote: | | pistolshrimp wrote: | | I guess women have to resort to sneaker means to get what they want because they don't have the physical strength so they overcompensate |
that's the biggest bullshit ever. its not like men use physical strength to get what they want, if they do they end up in jail |
I am not saying its right or anything. its just that men and women have different strategies when it comes to dealing with conflict. I have guy friends who hate some other guy and they get into some physical fight and then its over and done with the next day. Its like they reach some sort of agreement. In a group of men it is a completely different atmosphere. Women aren’t like that, they hold grudges longer. At work, step on the wrong women's toes you are fucked. I worked with some nurses that were like that. I have also been in classes where in a class of 30 there only 2 guys. In a class like that all the women start to get their period at the same time. PMS time it was vicious. Running behind your back to instructors over the dumbest things.
Its just my in experience I find it to be true but my view is tainted because I kinda look for it now. It predisposes my thinking.
@roCcor
I am glad everything is working out for you guys. Guys are famous for calling their ex’s when they are drunk. The 2 am drunk booty call. I would ask her, if she would like you to answer the phone for her. Then you can be really rude to him and he might get the point. Ask him straight up “ Why the fuck are you calling my house drunk at 2 in the morning”, “Oh you are having problems with your girlfriend, Well maybe you should be calling her ass instead of my house.” It change things for the better if he hears a real voice.
About the key logger. I would still Install it and let her know its there. Unless the computer isn’t yours because then you don’t have the right to install anything.
@everybody else
About the revenge. The best revenge is to live your life well, and not waste your times thinking about how that person hurt you. They certainly aren’t thinking about you
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jun 2006 22:41 Post subject: |
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| Quote: | | About the revenge. The best revenge is to live your life well, and not waste your times thinking about how that person hurt you. They certainly aren’t thinking about you |
Thats so true. Best to live and let live right |
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jun 2006 23:18 Post subject: |
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| pistolshrimp wrote: | | JeanPerrier wrote: | | pistolshrimp wrote: | | I guess women have to resort to sneaker means to get what they want because they don't have the physical strength so they overcompensate |
that's the biggest bullshit ever. its not like men use physical strength to get what they want, if they do they end up in jail |
I am not saying its right or anything. its just that men and women have different strategies when it comes to dealing with conflict. I have guy friends who hate some other guy and they get into some physical fight and then its over and done with the next day. Its like they reach some sort of agreement. In a group of men it is a completely different atmosphere. Women aren’t like that, they hold grudges longer. At work, step on the wrong women's toes you are fucked. I worked with some nurses that were like that. I have also been in classes where in a class of 30 there only 2 guys. In a class like that all the women start to get their period at the same time. PMS time it was vicious. Running behind your back to instructors over the dumbest things.
Its just my in experience I find it to be true but my view is tainted because I kinda look for it now. It predisposes my thinking.
@roCcor
I am glad everything is working out for you guys. Guys are famous for calling their ex’s when they are drunk. The 2 am drunk booty call. I would ask her, if she would like you to answer the phone for her. Then you can be really rude to him and he might get the point. Ask him straight up “ Why the fuck are you calling my house drunk at 2 in the morning”, “Oh you are having problems with your girlfriend, Well maybe you should be calling her ass instead of my house.” It change things for the better if he hears a real voice.
About the key logger. I would still Install it and let her know its there. Unless the computer isn’t yours because then you don’t have the right to install anything.
@everybody else
About the revenge. The best revenge is to live your life well, and not waste your times thinking about how that person hurt you. They certainly aren’t thinking about you |
I agree with installing the keylogger, however I don't agree with telling her about it. If roCcor does that, he might as well just kiss his one advantage goodbye. I'd only advise installing it only if you know how to conceal it. Does the gf know much about computers? Is there any risk she could find out you planted it there? Can you make up a decent tale about a virus attack or some horrible malware attack if she discovers it (i.e. lie)? As they say, all is fair in love and war. Once you've determined that she's being truthful with you and faithful to you, take off the keylogger, forget her email account, and move on.
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Mon, 5th Jun 2006 23:24 Post subject: |
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| Siddhartha wrote: | | SycoShaman wrote: | | Quote: | | About the revenge. The best revenge is to live your life well, and not waste your times thinking about how that person hurt you. They certainly aren’t thinking about you |
Thats so true. Best to live and let live right |
No. Best to live and let die. Cue the Bond theme. |
You know what i meant bud
Its hard tho. Letting something life changing go....killer... |
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