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 Posted: Thu, 24th Aug 2006 05:14 Post subject: L is for the way you look at me! |
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I’m kind of in the process of writing a new preface. It’s hard to explain. So I’ll do it anyway.
 Spoiler: | Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah I like this girl Blah Blah Blah Blah. We’ve been going steady. Blah Blah Blah Blah. She doesn’t like me anymore. Blah Blah Blah. I like this other girl. Blah. Blah. Blah. Blah. I want someone to wash my underwear. Blah. Blah. Blah. Blah. But she doesn’t have quarters for the Laundromat. Blah. Blah Blah Blah! |
So I made this “survey” to help me get ideas of how other people feel about "l" and what it means to them. As it is a likely topic I will, sooner than later, discuss with someone… else? 
This little tiny survey here is kind of seemingly important to me, as my thoughts/opinions have been diluted by the waters of loneliness. You can Spam or Flame or do whatever you want it’s the useless void for crying out loud! For all I care you can just ignore it (and you will so smile!). If you’re going to help, much obliged. If not, no biggie.
Just answer it as shortly as possible. I’m not looking for paragraph long answers and shit. (Because the topic itself can be discussed in length! Oh noes!) A simple yes/no will suffice (only if the question can be answered with a simple yes/no ).
Also the last question(s) are mainly for me, so please, if you plan on just skipping through at least answer the very last one(s). They are very important as I’m kind of lost and they are the missing parts for my compass! 
Oh and I hope I mustn’t stress that I want honest answers. I don’t care if you lie. It’s just that if you do you aren’t really helping. But I don’t care, just as long as the answers appear legitimate.
Thanks in Advance.
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1a.What are the characteristics you look for in a woman/man?
1b.What traits make you really happy?
2.Are you willing to make compromises or do you like to stand your ground?
3.Are looks really important to you? (“Would you still love me if I were purple?”)
4a.Do you prefer an introverted woman/man or an extroverted woman/man or the other way around?
4b.Why?
5.Are you willing to overlook any physical flaws (third nipple/tiny pecker/cigarette nipples/warts)?
6a.What quirks attract you?
6b.What quirts repel you?
7a.Is sex really important to you?
7b.Would it bother you if you were in a relationship for three/four weeks/months and you still haven’t had any form of intercourse?
8a.How is money important to you?
8b.As long as you two are together or as long as you two have everything you ever wanted?
9.Do you believe in one true love?
10.Do you believe that once after you’ve found your one and only true love that you two are bonded for eternity? (“Your two souls will wander through the void of eternal abyss together forever and ever and ever and ever and ever”)
11.According to you and your surroundings (Media/Friends): is true love replicable?
12a.Is love important for happiness?
12b.Can you be absolutely happy even when you’re lonely?
13a.Are kids important?
13b. Kids or Amazing sex every night for the rest of your life? (free Viagra pills for when you grow bald!)
And these here is just for me… 
After you’ve been with a person for a prolonged period of time and you feel that the relationship is ready for the next step… how do you go on about making sure that the other person feels the same way without sounding hesitant?
And how do you know for sure that you are completely ready for the next step?
Thank you for participating!
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| Posted: Thu, 24th Aug 2006 05:34 Post subject: Re: L is for the way you look at me! |
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1a.What are the characteristics you look for in a woman/man?
Nice teeth
1b.What traits make you really happy?
traits about me or them? Well I'd say teeth but they can be manufactured so self-confidence
2.Are you willing to make compromises or do you like to stand your ground?
Compromise obviously. But it depends on what it is.
3.Are looks really important to you? (“Would you still love me if I were purple?”)
Yes. If my milf goy mutilated now I don't think I would stick around in all honesty.
4a.Do you prefer an introverted woman/man or an extroverted woman/man or the other way around?
Extrovert
4b.Why?
It's sexy and more fun to be around.
5.Are you willing to overlook any physical flaws (third nipple/tiny pecker/cigarette nipples/warts)?
Sure. But not a penis
6a.What quirks attract you?
Giggles / nice mannerisms like that
6b.What quirts repel you?
A horrible laugh
7a.Is sex really important to you?
Sure is
7b.Would it bother you if you were in a relationship for three/four weeks/months and you still haven’t had any form of intercourse?
Of course it would
8a.How is money important to you?
Not important as long as I can get by.
8b.As long as you two are together or as long as you two have everything you ever wanted?
What if the thing you want is money? Money can buy things you want. What if you want experiences? Money can help to make them but that's about the only thing.
9.Do you believe in one true love?
Nope
10.Do you believe that once after you’ve found your one and only true love that you two are bonded for eternity? (“Your two souls will wander through the void of eternal abyss together forever and ever and ever and ever and ever”)
Nope
11.According to you and your surroundings (Media/Friends): is true love replicable?
Sure, but I think there will always be something in the person forever.
12a.Is love important for happiness?
Of course. Noone wants to be alone
12b.Can you be absolutely happy even when you’re lonely?
It depends on what i'm doing. If I feel lonely then no. If i'm alone then that's a different matter.
13a.Are kids important?
Eventually i'd say so yea.
13b. Kids or Amazing sex every night for the rest of your life? (free Viagra pills for when you grow bald!)
Kids.
After you’ve been with a person for a prolonged period of time and you feel that the relationship is ready for the next step… how do you go on about making sure that the other person feels the same way without sounding hesitant?
Well if you're hesitant then it's not the right time imo.
And how do you know for sure that you are completely ready for the next step?
Well it depends on the next step. If you feel strongly enough about something you'll do it no matter what. Anything else is irrelevant.
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Thu, 24th Aug 2006 05:54 Post subject: Re: L is for the way you look at me! |
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| Sublime wrote: | | Well it depends on the next step. If you feel strongly enough about something you'll do it no matter what. Anything else is irrelevant. |
But how do you know you're ready? I can go the extra mile and shit but I don't know if in the long run I’ll be able to. Y'know? What if I get bored and’ll just throw it away. The unknown is scary. How do I know for certain it is real?
| Sublime wrote: | | Well if you're hesitant then it's not the right time imo. |
It's the fear of the answer you don't want that brings in the hesitation in the first place. You’re ready to go. You’re ready for it. But you want the other person to be ready for it as well, and if they’re not it’s painful. Just very painful.
Thanks I like your answers too. 
Horrible Laugh eh? Woody Wood Pecker or Elmer Fudd?
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Well marriage? What's the long run? Not everything works out, just take it in loads of little steps. Thats what I do If it's something serious then you might never know. I would say go on instinct but that can just leave you fucked up. You know i'm a pretty non-commited guy until le milf but even now I'm just happy where we're at and don't wanna get more involved in her life like that.
You might be hesitant about his () answer but it's better out than in. May as well go for it now,
it might be one of those things that's never going to change.
I don't mind a unique laugh, I don't know just a laugh that kinda goes through you after a while. I had a girl in my class at college who was pretty fit and I got on with her, but when she laughed it made me want to punch her or something 
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WaldoJ
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I know exactly what you mean! But, I can live with a horrible laugh though. I’m not a funny guy so I’ll only hear it occasionally when a funny episode of Friends is on.
Did you at least tell her that it was bugging you? I find it very difficult to tell people that some of the things they do just bug me. I bite my upper lip and just shut up.
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No I didn't tell her. I still spoke to her and didn't notice it all the time but it was a complete turn off.
And you need to keep a girl entertained an amused. How you ever got a gf I'll never know. You're such a drip
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WaldoJ
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Pity
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| Posted: Thu, 24th Aug 2006 06:46 Post subject: |
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Yea probably. But that'll only last a while I think
Maybe you can pity her into givin you lots of money
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She's homeless
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sounds like you've got a real keeper then
Somehow I think the pity might be on your side.
Are you going to go live with her , or is she going to live with you? I hear the streets a nice place.... oh wait. Nevermind
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| Posted: Fri, 25th Aug 2006 06:03 Post subject: Re: L is for the way you look at me! |
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Srry Injurious. I like the old name better I didn't see this one till now and I know you said it was important.
Question 1
- How they treat people (including how they treat people who work at MacDonalds.
- Manners
- Similar values and ethics. (including money)
- Patience
- smells nice and is clean
- Clean ears <-------utmost importance
- He has to be able to use power tools and not be scared of them.
-He can use a hammer
-He can do basic car repairs
-He knows how to swim
-Can read a map
-Likes animals
-knows how to rough it.
-Can shit in the woods. <-----big
-Weather or not he agrees he will never EVER strap a parachute onto his back and -jump outta a plane. <------BIG
-Can let things go sometimes. Knows when and when not to fight over something
-Can stand up for me (not if I am being an idiot)
- Knows his own mind, doesn’t follow others
- Strong minded
-Loyal
-Ability to be affectionate. (something very small in public would be a bonus)
-A good pair of thumbs (hehe)
-Not pale with that kinda white/blue ass. <---- not attractive
- Very supportive
-knows how to have fun <-------big
-Likes dogs <----big cuz I have one
-responsible type of person
-Has similar ethic and values when it comes to kids, basically the way you treat people (even tho we wouldn’t be having any)
- Honest
-Doesn’t steal
-Doesn’t come home with blood all over his shoes.
-Doesn’t hunt for fun. And isn’t all gleeful when they kill something. I expect to see remorse in the loss of life of any animal. I say the last bit because I do fish and I feel guilt when I reel him in to eat.
- Is nice to me.
- GOOD KISSER
-good driver
-Mentally strong (I don’t have to be the strong one all the time)
-Is somewhat technical.
-Likes v-games cuz I love to watch and cheer.
His parents are not overly involved in his and MY life so much.
Open minded <------Big
Not a racist or ignorant about other races <-----big
QUESTION 1b
I don’t think someone's else's traits can make you happy. If they are negative then they can drive you fucking nuts.
QUESTION 2
I would make certain compromises if it is important for my guy - as long as they don’t lead to a negative consequences. There is no compromising on the sky diving EVER (anything where they would fall to their death) I would never compromise dirty ears, NeVer, nEvEr... nooOOoo dirty ears.
QUESTION.3
Ya they are but not in the normal way I think. I don’t like those ape-like shoulder guys and it would be hard if the guy had 3 inch hair growing all over his back. I don’t like the uni-brows. Sometimes I can meet a guy who is decently good looking but yet there is something that repluses me about their looks. I thought my ex was really good looking. He looked like a cross between Adam Sandler and a better looking, cuter Jerry Seinfield.
QUESTION 4a & 4b
I like a mixture of both. I am introverted, so I like the extroverted but usually extroverts like extroverts which I am not so I choose introverted. That would make me more of an extrovert. I fall for the extroverts.
QUESTION 5
I can overlook all sorts of physical flaws but I don’t know where my line is. I believe if the physical perfection of your partner is that important, I think the relationship is doomed. People age, and get sick, get breast cancer, lose a boob. Sometimes there are accidents and faces get scarred. Bodies stretch when you have kids, the boobs are not as perky. Soo many things
QUESTION 6a & b
I don’t know
QUESTION 7a
Yes, sex is important. It is more important to me that the sex being had is for a wide number of reasons and not just because the guy is lusty. Actually, I change that. Lusty all the time is good! It has to be lusty and a little of something else Like lusty & horny, lusty & lonely, Lusty & desperate, lusty & mad, Ohhh real mad , lusty & sorry , lusty and forgiving , or lusty sex for closeness and Lusty & sadness. But it isn’t everything is a relationship either. Sometimes people can’t have sex for medical reasons like guys esp. heart conditions, it can happen to quite a few guys for various reasons. I bet maybe also because their wife doesn’t turn them on anymore. Sad to say but some guys are like that. So if your relationship is based on sex and something like that happens you can kiss the relationship away.
QUESTION 7b
3-4 weeks - Both no and yes. but I am a girl so I am usually the one in the position saying no and I have made them wait longer that that. If I was friends with them for a long time before maybe not so much. If he explained why, I imagion I would be totally fine with it. Esp if he was still affectionate.
You don’t want the guy to be a pig about it but you would like to at least fantasise that the guy really wants you. For a women, it is usually a really bad sign if the guy doesn’t want to sleep with you pretty quick.
QUESTION 8 a & b
Money is very important but in different ways. I don’t believe in working yourself into a early grave just so you can afford some luxury items. I am more concerned with someone I choose being in debt, exp credit cards. Not student loan debt because I believe that is an investment. I have things I consider small luxury items but I don’t need or require them and can definitely go without. I was always content with what I had. It seemed to be the other people around me who weren’t. I have never had to go without so I really don’t know from experience. Money is power tho. Money is power to get good lawyers, money is life when it pays for medical treatments in the states because in BC you would be long dead before you even got into the MRI appointment. Lots of bad things about money tho. Those are my values about money and what it is for. Life.
QUESTION 9
No. I think there are many because people change though out their life.
QUESTION 10
No. I think I will become worm food, push up a few daisy's and become part of the cycle of life. My spirit is going to become part of the ocean, animals, and trees. His spirit can go wherever it wants. Free is free he will go where he wants when he wants and can come back to visit me from time to time.
QUESTION 11
Don’t know what you mean.
QUESTION 12 a
Love isn’t going to make you happy unless you are happy by yourself. No, because that is like saying a single person can’t be happy.
QUESTION 12b
No, because lonely is a negative emotion so you wouldn’t be happy.
QUESTION 13
Non issue
kids - but really you could still have amazing sex at least once in a while. Grandparents FTW.
WALDO QUESTION
Nothing wrong with sounding hesitant with a really important life changing event.
I think you should know how that other person feels if you know them really well and you have a open relationship. I think it is important to ask questions and have true respect for your partners feeling. That means not getting upset or defensive if you don’t like their answer. Sometimes he is going to have negative selfish feelings and I think it is important to voice them. Sometimes my ex didn’t say something because he thought it would upset me and it took a while but he learned that I wasn’t going to freak out or get pissy. Your can’t help what you feel even if you know it is wrong. It really improved the relationship.
Ok I will proof read later. Too much typing.
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| Posted: Fri, 25th Aug 2006 06:06 Post subject: Re: L is for the way you look at me! |
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| pistolshrimp wrote: | | -A good pair of thumbs (hehe) |
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| Posted: Fri, 25th Aug 2006 07:04 Post subject: |
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| pistolshrimp wrote: | | Nothing wrong with sounding hesitant with a really important life changing event. |
I guess. But wouldn't it let the other person know that you aren't completely sure of yourself and that there's doubt in the back of your head? Can't it ruin everything? They may look at it seriously and you’re just afraid to look at it. Y'know? It's just crazy!
| pistolshrimp wrote: | | I think you should know how that other person feels if you know them really well and you have a open relationship. I think it is important to ask questions and have true respect for your partners feeling. That means not getting upset or defensive if you don’t like their answer. Sometimes he is going to have negative selfish feelings and I think it is important to voice them. |
I agree, but it's not always that easy. Not for me at least.
Your list is HUGE. Wow. The perfect guy must be perfectly impossible to find.
11. What I meant is how your friends feel about true love. Is it replaceable? If the person they are really in love with were to suddenly die would they just move on and find another person that makes them happy or will they live in sorrow till the day they die because their true love has perished and they can’t find another soul who’d make them smile again. Y'know?
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| Posted: Fri, 25th Aug 2006 07:55 Post subject: |
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| Quote: | | Just answer it as shortly as possible. I’m not looking for paragraph long answers and shit. (Because the topic itself can be discussed in length! Oh noes!) A simple yes/no will suffice (only if the question can be answered with a simple yes/no Very Happy). |
and you don't like skydiving?
you sound like a control freak. I know you try hard to not come across as one but you are.
edit: oh and injurious' name is Waldo Something (probably J something ) That's why it's that. |
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| Posted: Fri, 25th Aug 2006 08:21 Post subject: |
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@subby
LOL no I am not a control freak at all. There is a choice, skydive or not skydive. Don't be with me then.
EDIT: ---- OK perhaps I missed that part about going on and on. Sooo sorry sublime.
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| Posted: Fri, 25th Aug 2006 08:27 Post subject: |
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I'm not on about the sky diving. Just everything else in general. Particularly the introvert / extrovert thing.
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| Posted: Fri, 25th Aug 2006 08:34 Post subject: |
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| Sublime wrote: | | I'm not on about the sky diving. Just everything else in general. Particularly the introvert / extrovert thing. |
What about it?
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| Posted: Fri, 25th Aug 2006 08:47 Post subject: |
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| Quote: | | I like a mixture of both. I am introverted, so I like the extroverted but usually extroverts like extroverts which I am not so I choose introverted. That would make me more of an extrovert. I fall for the extroverts. |
Are you saying you want an introvert so it makes you look extrovert? It's just a weird thing to say really. you're usually one way or another there's not really a middle ground.
anyway you look for too much really. If you meet someone and then can't look past a 'BIG' flaw then you're always going to find a problem. I bet there are a million other things on your list too. |
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wtf is wrong with skydiving?????? 
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WaldoJames I thought y'all knew me better 
Thnx for help/answers
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| Posted: Fri, 25th Aug 2006 19:07 Post subject: |
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I don't want my guy skydiving. I couldn't handle him falling to his death if the fucking thing didn't open. You should of seen me with my ex and cliffs also with the dog. Leash him up good so he doesn't go over the edge. I have a problem with planes too but not helicopters and heli-jets.
I don't think I am a control freak subby
@waldo
So what is happening with this chick of yours. If you look at my list a lot of the things on it are quite do-able I think.
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| pistolshrimp wrote: | | I have a problem with planes too but not helicopters and heli-jets |
back in the army we jumped out of helicopters hows that?
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| Posted: Fri, 25th Aug 2006 21:27 Post subject: |
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@cnZ
So is blond a requirement?
@Werder
No jumping outta anything.
@Subby
back to this control freak thing. I can’t let it go.
You know you can’t really judge if someone is a control freak or not over the internet and by someone answering a few question. My ex didn’t think I was one. We talked about stuff like that. If there was something I really REALLy didn’t want him to do because because I had a bad feeling he wouldn’t outta respect for my feeling. It was rare that I would even ask. I also gave him the same respect if he really didn’t want me doing something.
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@pistol
Whats wrong with sky diving?
And whats the can be able to shit in the woods about?
Interesting answers tho
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@syco
I don’t like the thought of my guy throwing himself outta a plane or falling. It is too messy a death. Legs can snap off if you hit the ground wrong. When he realises the shoot wasn’t going to open he would have lots of time to contemplate is fastly approaching death. Then I would be stuck all alone with his mangled broken body. Or I would have to identify it. Then I would see how he suffered.
Shitting in the woods, it is a joke among some of my friends. There was a chapter dedicated to the topic in a book we had and we were ROFL . We figured anybody who couldn’t figure it out was a moron. The next yr we took this guy with us to find out we had a moron.
why is no one else answering this for Injurious.
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| pistolshrimp wrote: | @waldo
So what is happening with this chick of yours. If you look at my list a lot of the things on it are quite do-able I think. |
Nothing big really. The problem is that I’m willing to take it a step further, but not now. I’m still in school and it is sort of important to me and very important for me to finish. After I’m done school (3 (+ hopefully not) years) I’ll have all the time in the world to settle down and have a family. But, I’m unsure if she’s willing to wait that long. I don’t know how to ask her though. I don’t want her to walk out.
Right now things are going really great. But all relationships I’ve had have been adequately fantastic (I’m a sucker for love ) and they’ve ended. So, I don’t know if this one will last.
Sorry for the late reply. I went on a weekend trip It was GREAT! I went sight seeing! I went on a nature walk(s)! Went to a shipyard! Took pictures of boats! Went into caves (well not inside, claustrophobia kicked in so I stayed out for the most part) Got lots of pictures It was awesome!
The list is indeed big. I thought you wanted all of them to be check marked, so my mistake.
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