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CaptainCox
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Hey man. I had this GREAT LOVE! when i was 17 or so, we where together for 5 years ( I know I missed a lot there) but she was the one...NOT! cheated on me and I almost toppled myself from a roof top!. Good thing a woman in the house noticed something was weird and went up there (don't ask me how she found out...but she did and talked to me). Anyhow, I married at 26, had a kid and live the "normal life"...last year "SHE" called me...my mom gave "her" the nr...anyho, I went back to SWE for Xmas last year only to find out that its not like in the story books, and that my life is not in the past, and that ppl change. "She" wanted to have sex...somet inside me said NO!!!!!, and it stayed at that. Still married, and still ok with it...go figure.
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| Posted: Sat, 29th Dec 2007 02:53 Post subject: Re: Pessimistic. |
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| watergem wrote: | Well as some of you who read my threads in here (its becoming almost a blog ffs)..
I broke up with my GF of 2 years (my initiation, I just knew we wasn't right for one another) and right now its about 6 weeks after the split.
I feel so pessimistic, about my next relationship. Im a 20 year old guy, I know this may sound ridiculous but i seriously am doubting ever finding someone I can FULLY connect with, you know? Im sure others feel this way.. perhaps would spread the words of wisdom to a young one.
Im talking about a pretty chick who I get butterflies for and then get to know that she likes what I like and has intelligence that I can enjoy a conversation with. None of the philosophical statements really make me feel better..
Maybe its cos of my ex and our relationship being so awkward, I can't believe I let it go on for so long when we where both clearly unhappy.
Someone please enlighten me before I go become a Monk   |
Ok, for starters I am not in good health at the moment, spent some time dealing with alcohol poisoning, and I stll feel like crap. But here is my best.
You are 20, you haven't had time to find that someone yet. Think of this for a moment, you are just begining to reach full maturity, likewise the ladies your age are as well, what this means is that you will become more in touch with who you are, and the ladies around your age will as well, this is a good thing, it means that when you do find someone who you connect with, it will be more of a true connection and less of a phase per say.
Finding a pretty girl isn't going to be a problem, your tastes will also mature, and what you look for will be slightly altered, when you find someone who you connect with fully they will be beautiful to you! Women also (sorry for the generalization ladies) become
better at conversation with age as well, young girls are practically retarded, they are more into shoe's, shopping, how they look etc... that is not to say they aren't intelligent
just distracted we'll say.
Now I shouldn't be giving any thoughts, as you know I haven't been doing to well with my
relationship (past relationship) but if you want something to look forward to, just wait till you find the one that gives you butterflies, the one you see as the most beautiful, intelligent, and when that goes south. We'll chat then 
Honestly keep you chin up, do the things you need to do to make you happy, everything else will fall into place.
Good luck
Your best bet is to heal your wounds, it's perfectly natural to feel lost and hurt, have doubts when you leave a relationship.
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SycoShaman
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Man, like ive said before, keep your head up. Your a young guy. You'll meet someone better and more in touch with you.
Just dont try to rush things. Take it as it comes you know.
I suggest takin some time to yourself and evaluate what you want. Once your good with yourself, then try another relationship. Know what im saying?
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| Posted: Sat, 29th Dec 2007 05:22 Post subject: |
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20 yo not an ugly looking, physically in good condition bitching about not getting laid, i mean come on, think about how many gals and woman out there just waiting for someone like u
u got no kids to feed, no rent to pay [even if u are not a big deal just get a job, any job]
i'm in far worse sittuation than u atm and yet i'm thinking in 2k8 i'll do better, hell maybe start a new life and i'm 28
srsly think about how all this time u spend on this forum bitching when u could just go out and do something useful for yourself or ppl u care about [if such still left]
the only reason u'll stay alone or lonely is when u doing it to yourself, there is always someone like u out there u just need to look harder and not waiting for someone to be send to u wrapped up as a xmas present [alive of course ]
and yes i've been in your shoes too but it was long time ago, ignore small problems, don't take anything too close to your heart [u still need it to pump that blood around  ]
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| Posted: Sat, 29th Dec 2007 12:45 Post subject: Re: Pessimistic. |
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| watergem wrote: | Well as some of you who read my threads in here (its becoming almost a blog ffs)..
I broke up with my GF of 2 years (my initiation, I just knew we wasn't right for one another) and right now its about 6 weeks after the split.
I feel so pessimistic, about my next relationship. Im a 20 year old guy, I know this may sound ridiculous but i seriously am doubting ever finding someone I can FULLY connect with, you know? Im sure others feel this way.. perhaps would spread the words of wisdom to a young one.
Im talking about a pretty chick who I get butterflies for and then get to know that she likes what I like and has intelligence that I can enjoy a conversation with. None of the philosophical statements really make me feel better..
Maybe its cos of my ex and our relationship being so awkward, I can't believe I let it go on for so long when we where both clearly unhappy.
Someone please enlighten me before I go become a Monk |
dude, I'm exactly the same position (k, my gf broke up with me because she didn't love me anymore but anywho)
just look at it that way, life sucks like hell, but it will stop sucking and you and all us poor lonely fellas will find somebody new
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WaldoJ
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try for 2 years and a bit of constant relationships where chicks cheat on you, use you and just leave you. :pYou keep thinking next one will be the same but she's not. you fall for her blah blah blah she ends up cheating :Pyeh... pessisms is for losers.
but yah as the countryfolk said here you're young  shit will turn about i'm waiting for my shit to turn for3 years so it does take a while
| Sin317 wrote: | | I win, you lose. Or Go fuck yourself. |
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| Posted: Sat, 29th Dec 2007 20:00 Post subject: |
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better at conversation with age as well, young girls are practically retarded, they are more into shoe's, shopping, how they look etc... that is not to say they aren't intelligent
just distracted we'll say.
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"Distracted" lol. For all practical purposes they are retarded . Then again, I can't really blame them, considering most of them think it's expected of them to turn into "gossip girls" after being bombarded for years by movies such as "Clueless" and all those other high school crap dramas.
Kinda sad tho when they can't even find Iraq on the map, even when their stepfather is fighting there. But I guess in America keeping abreast of Paris Hilton's wardrobe and the latest American Idol returns are the most important things for any young girl 
I suppose that's why I never actually had a relationship up until now; I never found anyone who I could talk to, express my ideas, have an intelligent discussion. So I've never been emotionally attached to anyone like you have been.
That's why my first intention, when I saw this thread, was to post:
"Man, stop moping around, get a job and grow up. Tis not the end of the world "
But when I sat down and thought about it, I realized that a couple of years from now I'll probably find some chick that totally floored me, and then dumped me, and then I'll be in the same position as you. And does advice like: "Man, stop moping around, get a job and grow up. Tis not the end of the world " help? Nope.
So, with all that in mind, all I can say to watergem is:
Good luck and happy fucking New Year
-Peace
Sense Amid Madness, Wit Amidst Folly
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Cohen
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Grale
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| Posted: Sat, 29th Dec 2007 20:27 Post subject: Re: Pessimistic. |
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My advise is to stop thinking about your next relationship and focus on the now, after being in a 2 year relationship you should be thinking about yourself and enjoying life again.
your 20 dude you should be enjoying life, do the things you want to do, cars, bikes, flying anything your into ect.. that's what i did when i broke up with my gfriend when i was 21.
After many bad releationships and one very nasty one where i got fucked over really bad, i stopped looking and took the advise that everyone was telling me.. stop worrying stop looking and you will find :¬) and i did
I am now married have my own house, and i'm still able to do the thing i love most... computers  i knew within weeks of meeting my her that she was the one, corny i know but true, now we are trying for a kid so fingers x'd
Ohh and i was 33 when i met her, no need to rush
Hope 2008 is a good one for you
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Sat, 29th Dec 2007 20:32 Post subject: |
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i hate that advice I'm a sucker for girls but i keep running into the fucked up kind. as a dear friend told me, my perspective has changed... now every girl i meet i know she'll cheat or fuck me over somehow and i can't change that.
a rest would do me a world of good but a rest would do everyone a world of good, but nobody likes being alone
I'm gonna try again in a few weeks if i'm up for it.. so far i'm down drinking since noon got a party tonight  too many bad things happened in one day yesterday
| Sin317 wrote: | | I win, you lose. Or Go fuck yourself. |
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| Posted: Sun, 30th Dec 2007 07:41 Post subject: |
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| tainted4ever wrote: | | Quote: |
better at conversation with age as well, young girls are practically retarded, they are more into shoe's, shopping, how they look etc... that is not to say they aren't intelligent
just distracted we'll say.
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"Distracted" lol. For all practical purposes they are retarded . Then again, I can't really blame them, considering most of them think it's expected of them to turn into "gossip girls" after being bombarded for years by movies such as "Clueless" and all those other high school crap dramas.
Kinda sad tho when they can't even find Iraq on the map, even when their stepfather is fighting there. But I guess in America keeping abreast of Paris Hilton's wardrobe and the latest American Idol returns are the most important things for any young girl
I suppose that's why I never actually had a relationship up until now; I never found anyone who I could talk to, express my ideas, have an intelligent discussion. So I've never been emotionally attached to anyone like you have been.
That's why my first intention, when I saw this thread, was to post:
"Man, stop moping around, get a job and grow up. Tis not the end of the world "
But when I sat down and thought about it, I realized that a couple of years from now I'll probably find some chick that totally floored me, and then dumped me, and then I'll be in the same position as you. And you advice like: "Man, stop moping around, get a job and grow up. Tis not the end of the world " help? Nope.
So, with all that in mind, all I can say to watergem is:
Good luck and happy fucking New Year
-Peace |
Wow, I like this post.
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